I really want to be a surrogate but my husband has some concerns. I have healthy children and I think it would be the greatest gift I could ever give someone in this lifetime. Would you do it?How do you feel about being a surrogate mother?
I would love to be a surrogate, and like you, my husband doesn't feel it is the best idea. So, at least for now, I have put those plans on hold.
I think that you should gather as much information about it as possible, and take to him about his concerns. Then use the gathered information to ease his mind.
i would do it for some one i really cared about and knew wellHow do you feel about being a surrogate mother?
yes i would do it im also trying to be a surrogate.
As long as the egg and sperm have been tested for STD's and other things that can be passed to you during pregnancy and delivery....I'd love to do something like that!~
I have healthy babies and eat a very healthy diet ~
I would love to be a surrogate mother... I have the exact same views as you. I think when Im done having kids of my own then I will be a surrogate mother.
I'm not sure about a complete stranger but I did tell my sister (she has endometreosis) that if she isn't able to have a child I will have ONE for her but no more than that, she is very grateful for that. I think if you are willing to do that for another person you are a very kind hearted person and I wish I would be able to do that but I think emotionally it would be a huge strain on the surrogates family.
I would absolutely be a surrogate for someone that I am close with.
I can't say that I would,but also can't say I would.I would have to wait and see how I felt at the time I was asked.I might could do it for my sisters.I would have to see how I felt at the time,but nobody else.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
How could I go about being a surrogate mother?
Ive always wanted to do this. I would like to know where I should go to place ads to be gestational surrogate. Im also wondering if anyone hear done this and did the procedures hurt or extra moody?? I live in Florida so any help with the laws of my state would be great as well.How could I go about being a surrogate mother?
There was a guy on this yesterday or the day before in this section looking for a surrogate mother . . .
I have heard of this but am not sure how you can become one. I am happy to hear that you have decided to do this though as it helps with women who cant carry their child. If you lived closer, I would have asked you to be my surrogate mother, but I did hear they make good money, not alot each your but per pregnancy. Good Luck!!How could I go about being a surrogate mother?
Are you near margate
There was a guy on this yesterday or the day before in this section looking for a surrogate mother . . .
I have heard of this but am not sure how you can become one. I am happy to hear that you have decided to do this though as it helps with women who cant carry their child. If you lived closer, I would have asked you to be my surrogate mother, but I did hear they make good money, not alot each your but per pregnancy. Good Luck!!How could I go about being a surrogate mother?
Are you near margate
Dou you think that surrogate mothering is a bad idea?
I had to have a partial hysterectomy when my daughter was born. My husband and I would love to have a another child. Dou you think that surrogate mothering is a bad idea?Dou you think that surrogate mothering is a bad idea?
How does your family feel about it? My mother doesn't accept my sister's baby as totally hers, because she got pregnant using a donor egg. That's bizarre, of course, but still effects things for my sister. If your family is reasonably supportive, you are able to find someone (maybe anonymous) you are comfortable with, and you have the money to do it, then sure go for it! Otherwise, my sister was also able to adopt a baby by becoming a foster mom through the state. She's getting PAID to take care of her son.
not at allDou you think that surrogate mothering is a bad idea?
Not at all. If this does not work out for you, there is adoption.
i think its a wonderful idea!!!!
i'd make sure it is a woman that's been one before..you always hear these stories of women that change their minds after they give birth..
No I don't. I have contemplated being one for my sister in law who cannot have children.
No it is great! I would love to be one because i love being pregnant and ive had the healthest baby in the world nothing wrong but two ear infections. Plus i dont want any more childern. There are people out there that cant have kids and i think it is something they are missing out on and it is great when people will help with the gift of life. My aunt was going to do it for my cousin.
not one bit. some women are born to be mothers and unfortunately for them they are cursed and cant have children, so with surrogate mothers being around and willing to have a baby and give it up, theirs is nothing wrong with it
I have often considered being a surrogate mother. I am very fertile and I already have two children. I got my tubes tied because I do not want anymore children. However I do really like being pregnant. A friend of mine can't have children and I was with her when she found out, and it was so devastating for her. Her and her husband decided to apopt instead of doing surrogacy. But I think it is a great solution for women who can not get pregnant for one reason or another. I hope that was helpful.
this might happen
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YIEDGL6wmbo
I also had a daughter and then later was not able to carry due to a fibroid removal. We attempted Gestational (my eggs) two times, but it did not work, so we went with a Traditional surrogate. Even though she is not my biological daughter, I love her like she is, and I know she loves me. We are going to be very open with her about it...she will know her surro mom as her biological mother(she is only 9 months old right now), but as soon as she is old enough to talk, she will know. I don't think it is a bad idea, if you go into it thinking of what is BEST for the child and not just that you want a child of your own.
I dont think so if that is one of your only options, but choose a surrogate mother very carefully. I might not choose a lady who has not had children yet, they tend to get attached and think of it as her baby. I might choose a lady who has had a few children already and who is older. Meet with potential women several times and choose a woman that you can feel totally comfortable with, that understands your situation and really wishes for you to have more children because that is what you want. Remain calm, dont choose when you are feeling desperate. Make sure both you and your husband interview the person together so you can both talk it out and discuss the people. good luck to you!
I think it is a great idea. I myself am actually in the process of being a surrogate for an infertile couple. Many women have easy pregnancies and enjoy being pregnant, but do not want any more children of their own. Many that I know love to be surrogates also, becuase of the enjoyment of being pregnant, seeing the faces of the new parents when they get their baby, and us not having to take it home!
How does your family feel about it? My mother doesn't accept my sister's baby as totally hers, because she got pregnant using a donor egg. That's bizarre, of course, but still effects things for my sister. If your family is reasonably supportive, you are able to find someone (maybe anonymous) you are comfortable with, and you have the money to do it, then sure go for it! Otherwise, my sister was also able to adopt a baby by becoming a foster mom through the state. She's getting PAID to take care of her son.
not at allDou you think that surrogate mothering is a bad idea?
Not at all. If this does not work out for you, there is adoption.
i think its a wonderful idea!!!!
i'd make sure it is a woman that's been one before..you always hear these stories of women that change their minds after they give birth..
No I don't. I have contemplated being one for my sister in law who cannot have children.
No it is great! I would love to be one because i love being pregnant and ive had the healthest baby in the world nothing wrong but two ear infections. Plus i dont want any more childern. There are people out there that cant have kids and i think it is something they are missing out on and it is great when people will help with the gift of life. My aunt was going to do it for my cousin.
not one bit. some women are born to be mothers and unfortunately for them they are cursed and cant have children, so with surrogate mothers being around and willing to have a baby and give it up, theirs is nothing wrong with it
I have often considered being a surrogate mother. I am very fertile and I already have two children. I got my tubes tied because I do not want anymore children. However I do really like being pregnant. A friend of mine can't have children and I was with her when she found out, and it was so devastating for her. Her and her husband decided to apopt instead of doing surrogacy. But I think it is a great solution for women who can not get pregnant for one reason or another. I hope that was helpful.
this might happen
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YIEDGL6wmbo
I also had a daughter and then later was not able to carry due to a fibroid removal. We attempted Gestational (my eggs) two times, but it did not work, so we went with a Traditional surrogate. Even though she is not my biological daughter, I love her like she is, and I know she loves me. We are going to be very open with her about it...she will know her surro mom as her biological mother(she is only 9 months old right now), but as soon as she is old enough to talk, she will know. I don't think it is a bad idea, if you go into it thinking of what is BEST for the child and not just that you want a child of your own.
I dont think so if that is one of your only options, but choose a surrogate mother very carefully. I might not choose a lady who has not had children yet, they tend to get attached and think of it as her baby. I might choose a lady who has had a few children already and who is older. Meet with potential women several times and choose a woman that you can feel totally comfortable with, that understands your situation and really wishes for you to have more children because that is what you want. Remain calm, dont choose when you are feeling desperate. Make sure both you and your husband interview the person together so you can both talk it out and discuss the people. good luck to you!
I think it is a great idea. I myself am actually in the process of being a surrogate for an infertile couple. Many women have easy pregnancies and enjoy being pregnant, but do not want any more children of their own. Many that I know love to be surrogates also, becuase of the enjoyment of being pregnant, seeing the faces of the new parents when they get their baby, and us not having to take it home!
Should I become a surrogate mother for my cousin?
My cousin has been trying to have a baby for several years. She got pregnant a few times but had a miscarriage each time. She seems unable to carry a pregnancy to term. She gets fertility shots and it is very painful for her.
I have been thinking about offering to be a surrogate mother and carry the baby for her. What are your thoughts about surrogate motherhood? It is possible to inseminate me with a fertilized egg from her and her husband, right?Should I become a surrogate mother for my cousin?
It is possible for you to have her baby.
Should you...if you and your cousin are very close and you think you could trust her with a baby that you carried for 9 months. You have to understand that once you give her her baby, you cannot have that baby back. It would be a very emotional thing for you to go through. You want to make sure that you could handle it.
Really think about this before you give them your final answerShould I become a surrogate mother for my cousin?
i believe it is possible for you to be inseminated with her fertilized egg. women are inseminated with their own fertilized egg when they cant conceive through sex, so it may be possible for you to be inseminated with her egg. if your sister is okay with it, i think it would be a great gift to her and her husband
yes you can do that. It is possible, she will have her eggs taken from her and fertilized with her hubbys sperm, then they will be put back into you. It is totally possible but it is also a very big decision. Its is the most generous thing that a woman can do for another woman and i dont know that i would have the strength to hand over a baby i had carried for 9 months. You are an insperation to many! You also have to remember that by doing it that way with her eggs it wont biologicly be your child! Best of luck.
if you carry your cousins child--will you be able to just hand over the baby you've carried, nurtured, and bonded with for 9 months?
you know it's nice for you to concider that. yes you will have a hard time handing over the baby but i gaurantee you will really close with the baby. you say your young and your right, you have the rest of your life to grow up and have fun, and do whatever it is you want to do. YOU can even have a family, can your cousin say that. What's 9 months of putting your life on hold? It's not really that long you do what your heart tells you.
I have been thinking about offering to be a surrogate mother and carry the baby for her. What are your thoughts about surrogate motherhood? It is possible to inseminate me with a fertilized egg from her and her husband, right?Should I become a surrogate mother for my cousin?
It is possible for you to have her baby.
Should you...if you and your cousin are very close and you think you could trust her with a baby that you carried for 9 months. You have to understand that once you give her her baby, you cannot have that baby back. It would be a very emotional thing for you to go through. You want to make sure that you could handle it.
Really think about this before you give them your final answerShould I become a surrogate mother for my cousin?
i believe it is possible for you to be inseminated with her fertilized egg. women are inseminated with their own fertilized egg when they cant conceive through sex, so it may be possible for you to be inseminated with her egg. if your sister is okay with it, i think it would be a great gift to her and her husband
yes you can do that. It is possible, she will have her eggs taken from her and fertilized with her hubbys sperm, then they will be put back into you. It is totally possible but it is also a very big decision. Its is the most generous thing that a woman can do for another woman and i dont know that i would have the strength to hand over a baby i had carried for 9 months. You are an insperation to many! You also have to remember that by doing it that way with her eggs it wont biologicly be your child! Best of luck.
if you carry your cousins child--will you be able to just hand over the baby you've carried, nurtured, and bonded with for 9 months?
you know it's nice for you to concider that. yes you will have a hard time handing over the baby but i gaurantee you will really close with the baby. you say your young and your right, you have the rest of your life to grow up and have fun, and do whatever it is you want to do. YOU can even have a family, can your cousin say that. What's 9 months of putting your life on hold? It's not really that long you do what your heart tells you.
Is it difficult to be a surrogate mother?
I have this strong desire to be a surrogate mother, not for the money but just to help people out. How hard is it to let go of the baby at the end?Is it difficult to be a surrogate mother?
For many of us who choose surrogacy (I've done it twice) we just "know" it will not be difficult for us to give the baby(s) back to his parents at birth. For me, it wasn't hard at all. It was like I was babysitting and it was time for the kidd-o to go home.
But some surrogate mothers do experience a little bit of sadness, which is natural considering all of the hormones going through the body of a woman who has just given birth! That sadness passes pretty quick.
Having completed your own family first is huge in surrogacy; if you don't want to have anymore kids, its easy to remember that at the birth.
I have never been one but I think you have to ask yourself that question. How are your feeling towards motherhood? I personally would find it extremely hard to let go of a baby I felt growing inside myself... it is a wonderful thing to do though and I am sure there should be a website with forums that you can talk to women in the same position. Good luck!Is it difficult to be a surrogate mother?
Odd - I was talkiing to a couple today who do fostering - they are looking after the most beautiful little boy. Thinking about it after, I realised that I could (have done) surrogacy provided I never saw the baby, but I couldn't foster - would kill me to give up a child I had known.augsburg college greek salad dressing
For many of us who choose surrogacy (I've done it twice) we just "know" it will not be difficult for us to give the baby(s) back to his parents at birth. For me, it wasn't hard at all. It was like I was babysitting and it was time for the kidd-o to go home.
But some surrogate mothers do experience a little bit of sadness, which is natural considering all of the hormones going through the body of a woman who has just given birth! That sadness passes pretty quick.
Having completed your own family first is huge in surrogacy; if you don't want to have anymore kids, its easy to remember that at the birth.
I have never been one but I think you have to ask yourself that question. How are your feeling towards motherhood? I personally would find it extremely hard to let go of a baby I felt growing inside myself... it is a wonderful thing to do though and I am sure there should be a website with forums that you can talk to women in the same position. Good luck!Is it difficult to be a surrogate mother?
Odd - I was talkiing to a couple today who do fostering - they are looking after the most beautiful little boy. Thinking about it after, I realised that I could (have done) surrogacy provided I never saw the baby, but I couldn't foster - would kill me to give up a child I had known.
What happens if a surrogate mother get attach to the baby that she is carrying?
what happens if a surrogate mother get attach to the babythat she is carrying?
here's the just a conflict I made up in my mind
say I was a surrogate mother and over the months I've grown attach to the baby that I'm carrying for someone else and I decide to keep the baby that was already promise to someone elses what will happen?
or
what would happen if the surrogate mother finds out that she can't have anymore children after she gives birth to one she is carrying so she want to call off the agreement. what will happen to her?What happens if a surrogate mother get attach to the baby that she is carrying?
Most of the times when a surrogate mother is approached by a couple, a contract is drawn up along with a lawyer so that it all is in writing. From how much they will be paid to how the doctor visits will be covered.
If they are carrying someone else's egg and sperm then they have no choice but to give up the child. Legally it is not hers and therefore has no rights to the child.
If the egg is hers then that is something to be in the contract. It has to be detailed and explained as to how it will all go. The way her rights are will depend on how the contract is.
If it must, then it might hit the courts. I have looked into it before for my sister and it was really confusing.
Exactly the reasons why I don't condone surrogacy.What happens if a surrogate mother get attach to the baby that she is carrying?
Depends on the state that she lives in. If in MN, she can keep the baby, but will have to share custody with the father. This is because MN does not enforce surrogate agreements. Legally, the child belongs to the woman who gives birth to it, and it's up to that surrogate to give up her parental rights.
Texas, on the other hand, does enforce surrogate agreements and the baby would be taken from you if the egg is not yours. If the egg is yours, then you would be expected to pay for 1/2 of the IUI or IVF costs back to the other couple and the father would retain shared custody.
If the surrogate mother finds out she can't have any more children, too bad. That is why most surrogate lawyers won't even deal with women who have not yet had a child of their own. There is always the risk of a hysterectomy due to bleeding.
Make sure you are certain as to what situation you are talking aobut. Surrogate vs. relenquishing rights thru adoption. Surrogacy is you carrying a baby for someone else made from the egg and sperm of another couple. The egg does not belong to you. If you are a surrogate, you have no right to keep the baby.
If you are pregnant and decide to give your baby up for adoption, you agree on a family before the baby is born. You can change you mind and keep the baby when it is born. You have a certain # of days to claim the baby. I'm not sure what the # of days you have is, but there is still a period of time that you can reclaim it.
If that is not her egg then she has no rights. If it is her egg but she signed some sort of aggreement she has a good chance of retaining custody.
I'm sorry, I don't have the full info to answer your question, but I would like to share a story with you that may help solve some of these issues:
My mom was born with a congenital heart defect in 1964. She had a hole in one of the valves. Thankfully, the technology to fix this problem had just been tested out, and she become one of the first babies to live through this sort of problem. She was advised never to have children biologically because it would be incredibly dangerous for her health. However, four years after she married my dad, she became pregnant with me. She did want children, so she went through with the pregnancy. I was born six and a half weeks early and she almost died. After my birth, her uterus was really screwed up and she couldn't have kids anymore. So when I was three, she found a surrogate mother in California, named Jodi. (We live in Massachusetts.) After a year and a half of trying, Jodi finally got pregnant. Although her life was a really difficult one (she wanted a divorce, her husband didn't love her anymore, she had a bad financial situation, her two young sons had developmental problems,) she said that she never felt attached to my sister, Julia. In fact, a few months after the birth, she stopped contacting us. We've talked to her over the years but she doesn't seem interesting in pursuing a relationship.
I wouldn't worry about it - surrogates rarely get attached to the children they are carrying.
Who eggs?
depends on if your using your eggs or hers, you cant keep her baby
here's the just a conflict I made up in my mind
say I was a surrogate mother and over the months I've grown attach to the baby that I'm carrying for someone else and I decide to keep the baby that was already promise to someone elses what will happen?
or
what would happen if the surrogate mother finds out that she can't have anymore children after she gives birth to one she is carrying so she want to call off the agreement. what will happen to her?What happens if a surrogate mother get attach to the baby that she is carrying?
Most of the times when a surrogate mother is approached by a couple, a contract is drawn up along with a lawyer so that it all is in writing. From how much they will be paid to how the doctor visits will be covered.
If they are carrying someone else's egg and sperm then they have no choice but to give up the child. Legally it is not hers and therefore has no rights to the child.
If the egg is hers then that is something to be in the contract. It has to be detailed and explained as to how it will all go. The way her rights are will depend on how the contract is.
If it must, then it might hit the courts. I have looked into it before for my sister and it was really confusing.
Exactly the reasons why I don't condone surrogacy.What happens if a surrogate mother get attach to the baby that she is carrying?
Depends on the state that she lives in. If in MN, she can keep the baby, but will have to share custody with the father. This is because MN does not enforce surrogate agreements. Legally, the child belongs to the woman who gives birth to it, and it's up to that surrogate to give up her parental rights.
Texas, on the other hand, does enforce surrogate agreements and the baby would be taken from you if the egg is not yours. If the egg is yours, then you would be expected to pay for 1/2 of the IUI or IVF costs back to the other couple and the father would retain shared custody.
If the surrogate mother finds out she can't have any more children, too bad. That is why most surrogate lawyers won't even deal with women who have not yet had a child of their own. There is always the risk of a hysterectomy due to bleeding.
Make sure you are certain as to what situation you are talking aobut. Surrogate vs. relenquishing rights thru adoption. Surrogacy is you carrying a baby for someone else made from the egg and sperm of another couple. The egg does not belong to you. If you are a surrogate, you have no right to keep the baby.
If you are pregnant and decide to give your baby up for adoption, you agree on a family before the baby is born. You can change you mind and keep the baby when it is born. You have a certain # of days to claim the baby. I'm not sure what the # of days you have is, but there is still a period of time that you can reclaim it.
If that is not her egg then she has no rights. If it is her egg but she signed some sort of aggreement she has a good chance of retaining custody.
I'm sorry, I don't have the full info to answer your question, but I would like to share a story with you that may help solve some of these issues:
My mom was born with a congenital heart defect in 1964. She had a hole in one of the valves. Thankfully, the technology to fix this problem had just been tested out, and she become one of the first babies to live through this sort of problem. She was advised never to have children biologically because it would be incredibly dangerous for her health. However, four years after she married my dad, she became pregnant with me. She did want children, so she went through with the pregnancy. I was born six and a half weeks early and she almost died. After my birth, her uterus was really screwed up and she couldn't have kids anymore. So when I was three, she found a surrogate mother in California, named Jodi. (We live in Massachusetts.) After a year and a half of trying, Jodi finally got pregnant. Although her life was a really difficult one (she wanted a divorce, her husband didn't love her anymore, she had a bad financial situation, her two young sons had developmental problems,) she said that she never felt attached to my sister, Julia. In fact, a few months after the birth, she stopped contacting us. We've talked to her over the years but she doesn't seem interesting in pursuing a relationship.
I wouldn't worry about it - surrogates rarely get attached to the children they are carrying.
Who eggs?
depends on if your using your eggs or hers, you cant keep her baby
What is your view on surrogate mothers?
Have you ever been a surrogate mother? Could u be a surrogate for someone? Or have you ever had a surrogate mother?
I was watching the movie "Baby mama" %26amp; can completely see both ends of it...
The woman that longs to have a child but physically can't, so she finds someone to carry the baby for her....but on the other end, it's gotta be hard for a surrogate mother right? I mean during pregnancy you bond so much w/ the child inside of you, I'd find it very hard to go through all of that %26amp; have to part w/ the child after he/she is born....and what if you got a surrogate mother that lied to you the entire time, like the woman in the movie "Baby mama"....she wasn't pregnant @ all for the first bit of the movie, then she really did get pregnant...but it was by her boyfriend....I was just curious about those that have experienced it.What is your view on surrogate mothers?
I've been a surrogate twice. For me, it was not difficult to give back the babies, as I went into in knowing that they were not mine, that I was simply baby-sitting. Upon their birth, I felt wonderful knowing I had helped to create a family.
You have to understand how inaccurate "Baby Mama" was, simply for entertainment purposes. Much like the eccentric health food corporation boss in the movie, the surrogate mother was portrayed inaccurately, as someone doing this for the money. Surrogacy certainly has money involved, but there are not that many out there who are able to do it strictly "for the money".
Also, surrogates must be mothers before they are able to be surrogates, they must be in a stable home, etc.
I was watching the movie "Baby mama" %26amp; can completely see both ends of it...
The woman that longs to have a child but physically can't, so she finds someone to carry the baby for her....but on the other end, it's gotta be hard for a surrogate mother right? I mean during pregnancy you bond so much w/ the child inside of you, I'd find it very hard to go through all of that %26amp; have to part w/ the child after he/she is born....and what if you got a surrogate mother that lied to you the entire time, like the woman in the movie "Baby mama"....she wasn't pregnant @ all for the first bit of the movie, then she really did get pregnant...but it was by her boyfriend....I was just curious about those that have experienced it.What is your view on surrogate mothers?
I've been a surrogate twice. For me, it was not difficult to give back the babies, as I went into in knowing that they were not mine, that I was simply baby-sitting. Upon their birth, I felt wonderful knowing I had helped to create a family.
You have to understand how inaccurate "Baby Mama" was, simply for entertainment purposes. Much like the eccentric health food corporation boss in the movie, the surrogate mother was portrayed inaccurately, as someone doing this for the money. Surrogacy certainly has money involved, but there are not that many out there who are able to do it strictly "for the money".
Also, surrogates must be mothers before they are able to be surrogates, they must be in a stable home, etc.
How much does a surrogate mother cost?
I don't want to birth a child. How much would it be if a surrogate had my offspring? Please no rude remarks.How much does a surrogate mother cost?
It costs at the least 25,000 just for the surrogate not including the insemination or contract fees. It would go up substantially more if you go through an agency. Is this something you are looking into at this time?How much does a surrogate mother cost?
thousand and thousand of dollars
It costs at the least 25,000 just for the surrogate not including the insemination or contract fees. It would go up substantially more if you go through an agency. Is this something you are looking into at this time?How much does a surrogate mother cost?
thousand and thousand of dollars
How much is a surrogate mother usually paid?
I'm watching "Day of Our Lives" (random, I know) and Mimi and Shawn are going to use a surrogate and I was just wondering how much they are usually paid. I'd hope alot. Thanks.How much is a surrogate mother usually paid?
Usually around $15,000 to $25,000. Depends on the family and situation and whether or not the egg is the mother's or the surrogate's.How much is a surrogate mother usually paid?
Thanks for asking this question. I had no idea that they got paid, I thought it was just an "out of the goodness of your heart" type thing. My friend asked me to be a surrogate for her and now that I have this information, I'm more apt to do it. (wow...I sound like a gold digger)
Usually around $15,000 to $25,000. Depends on the family and situation and whether or not the egg is the mother's or the surrogate's.How much is a surrogate mother usually paid?
Thanks for asking this question. I had no idea that they got paid, I thought it was just an "out of the goodness of your heart" type thing. My friend asked me to be a surrogate for her and now that I have this information, I'm more apt to do it. (wow...I sound like a gold digger)
What would happen if a surrogate mother unexpectadley gave birth to twins?
Like what happened to Monica and Chandler in Friends? Like if a surrogate mother thought she was going to give birth to a single child, and the adoptive parents had arranged to raise that child, but it turned out she gave birth to twins, would the adoptive parents keep both babies or would there a whole load more work to allow that?What would happen if a surrogate mother unexpectadley gave birth to twins?
If the woman is truly a surrogate mother, both children belong to the "adoptive" parents. If a woman got preg and decided to go through adoption and then had twins, its still her decision on what to do until the adoption papers are signed.
But, that is over simplified. It would depend on what the terms of the surrogacy contract were. Potentially, the adoptive parents could take both children, or each parent could take one.
I'm sure legally they are to take home whatever comes out of the surrogate. Multiple births is a very common risk when using a surrogate mother since they implant several embryos in the hope that at least one will take. The future parents would be aware of that risk if the doctors did their job properly.What would happen if a surrogate mother unexpectadley gave birth to twins?
On Home and Away, and aussie soap, a lady was a sarrogate for her frend, but somehow also became pregnant before the embryo emplanted, so she had two babies, one was biologically hers and the other was her friends, in the end her frinds died but if it hadn't she would have kept hers and her friend would have taken the other.
If it were twins then the mother would take both.
If the surrogate was only the carrier and the egg belonged to the other woman and was implanted inside her once fertilised, then the mother and father to be would be the legal parents of however many children that egg produced (or eggs).
If the surrogate had provided her own egg then it would depend on the terms of the contract that they'd all signed. If no contracts had been signed then it would no doubt ensue in a court battle if the surrogate wanted to keep one of the twins, the outcome of which could be anything.dmv hours new cd releases
If the woman is truly a surrogate mother, both children belong to the "adoptive" parents. If a woman got preg and decided to go through adoption and then had twins, its still her decision on what to do until the adoption papers are signed.
But, that is over simplified. It would depend on what the terms of the surrogacy contract were. Potentially, the adoptive parents could take both children, or each parent could take one.
I'm sure legally they are to take home whatever comes out of the surrogate. Multiple births is a very common risk when using a surrogate mother since they implant several embryos in the hope that at least one will take. The future parents would be aware of that risk if the doctors did their job properly.What would happen if a surrogate mother unexpectadley gave birth to twins?
On Home and Away, and aussie soap, a lady was a sarrogate for her frend, but somehow also became pregnant before the embryo emplanted, so she had two babies, one was biologically hers and the other was her friends, in the end her frinds died but if it hadn't she would have kept hers and her friend would have taken the other.
If it were twins then the mother would take both.
If the surrogate was only the carrier and the egg belonged to the other woman and was implanted inside her once fertilised, then the mother and father to be would be the legal parents of however many children that egg produced (or eggs).
If the surrogate had provided her own egg then it would depend on the terms of the contract that they'd all signed. If no contracts had been signed then it would no doubt ensue in a court battle if the surrogate wanted to keep one of the twins, the outcome of which could be anything.
Why do children of today who have children think that their grannies are like surrogate mothers?
Because they are... the old always moan that they are left out of things - NOW YOU ARE NOT!
They always moan that they aren't part of the family structure like in Asian families - WELL NOW YOU ARE
Stop moaning for gods sake.Why do children of today who have children think that their grannies are like surrogate mothers?
Because they all came from essex and they dont know is there mum, who is there mums mum and who is there mums mum mum....so its easier to think that they are one big happy family!!!
sorry i disagree with you i am a young single mum and i do EVERYTHING for my son i haven't left his side since i found out i was pregnant my son is the most important thing in my life and i am very proud to have him not all young parents are like this some face up to their responsiblities.
and to add to lou i am from essex and i'm not like that can i just say as well just because someone is from essex doesn't make them a bad person not all the girls in essex are slappersWhy do children of today who have children think that their grannies are like surrogate mothers?
I am a 24 yr old mother of a 5 yr old and a 5 mth old... I don't think of my grannie as a surrogate mother.. I have one mother... I do think I understand what you're saying.. Most of the time it's b/c their mother is helping raise their children...Hope I understood your question
Um, why do grannies of today think of today's mothers as "children"?
Grandmothers and other relatives have always been a resource to help mothers. If you feel imposed upon, you should just tell your daughter that you can't be as available as she's assuming you'll be.
children know something we can all learn from. even when we think our child rearing days are over they begin again to our surprise, with great joy.
Heck I'm having a baby and my Mum has said she is there to support me. So far she's more excited than me, getting me stuff and putting stuff aside, and can't wait to spend time with the little one. My Dad and sister are the same. It makes me wonder if I'll ever get to see my own baby! heheh
Sometimes the grandparents just want to help out and support as much as they can, who are we to argue with their choice if they're offering?
hi i agree with you they have children take full time jobs and expect the grandparents to watch their kids
I am not a grandparent but I am a mum of two boys I never had my sons to give to someone else to bring up even when i split from their dad i worked part time school hours and took school holidays
I don't think all young mums are like that but the ones that are do so because they are children themselves and act accordingly, it's up to their parents to put them in their place.
They are like a second mother.
The definition of *nanny* means a gardian that looks after a child (usualy a female).
Today many people refer to thier grandma as nanny, hence the meaning (a second mother).
It is a good thing to have a close caring family.
Not really fair!!
Untill quite recently my mother hasn't baby-sat more then about three times.
The situation has changed slightly and she has had to help out or I wouldn't be able to work but I never take the piss out of my mum and every day when I leave for work I thank her for her help!
My daughter is my daughter and I dont treat granma as second mum.
We're not all the same or from Essex!
ye excuse u now i think this is such a disgraceful question. i had my son at 15 and to yrs later me and his daddy r his parents. his nannies{and he has 5 of them} r his nannies. i hav neva askd me ma ta do anything thatu wudn ask a friend ta do and if any one every told me my ma is my sons surrogate mother id flip. not every yung mother gives up life aftr kids
well I've found in my personal experience i got pregnant at a very young age, when my daughter was born everyone likes to make a fuss especially the grandparents. My gran goes all coochy coo over any-ones baby's imagine one born into her family wants to help take care etc etc but when i needed some help i was asking too much same goes for my mother wants to be around asked for help i was asking too much i was relying too much on her. all said and done they didn't realise their own fussing round was actually their doing cant help it mothers instinct in them. so as for grannies being surrogate mothers most of you grannies i blame you cant help the coochy coos inside of you, may i also point out older people love the smell of babies don't know why but you do maybe something like most women crave the chocolate we only need a whiff.
ive found a link of amuzing grandparent quotes and sayings hope you find it interesting and a bit of a giggle too.
They have reembraced the extended family and love you loads be honoured or learn to say no.
sounds liek you have a personal issue
some 'grannies' enjoy it
some kids take advantage
at the end of the day you need to sort out why it annoys YOU not someone else
are you going to be one of those nans kids dont like, or are you going to embrace someone that will give you unconditional love when youre old and smell of wee =)
WHY DO GRANNIES THINK THERE GRANDCHILDREN ARE THERE OWN AND TRY AND BUTT IN HERE THERE AND EVERYWERE.sO YOU KNOW LOVE ITS NOT THAT WAY ALL THE TIME I CAN SEE YOUR POINT A BIT BUT IN SOME CASES ITS THE OTHER WAY ROUND THE GRANNIES ALWAYS IN YOUR FACE TELLING YOU HOW TO BRING YOUR KIDS UP WHEN TO PUT THEM TO BED WHAT TO FEED THEM ETC THE LIST IS ENDLESS.I AM 23 WITH A 3yo SON HE HAS 2 GRAND MOTHERS AND 1 GREAT GRANDMOTHER AND THEY LOOK AFTER HIM WHEN THEY WANT TO, I NEVER ASK THEM TO AND IF THEY DO IT IS FOR NO MORE THAN A COUPLE OF HOURS .
They always moan that they aren't part of the family structure like in Asian families - WELL NOW YOU ARE
Stop moaning for gods sake.Why do children of today who have children think that their grannies are like surrogate mothers?
Because they all came from essex and they dont know is there mum, who is there mums mum and who is there mums mum mum....so its easier to think that they are one big happy family!!!
sorry i disagree with you i am a young single mum and i do EVERYTHING for my son i haven't left his side since i found out i was pregnant my son is the most important thing in my life and i am very proud to have him not all young parents are like this some face up to their responsiblities.
and to add to lou i am from essex and i'm not like that can i just say as well just because someone is from essex doesn't make them a bad person not all the girls in essex are slappersWhy do children of today who have children think that their grannies are like surrogate mothers?
I am a 24 yr old mother of a 5 yr old and a 5 mth old... I don't think of my grannie as a surrogate mother.. I have one mother... I do think I understand what you're saying.. Most of the time it's b/c their mother is helping raise their children...Hope I understood your question
Um, why do grannies of today think of today's mothers as "children"?
Grandmothers and other relatives have always been a resource to help mothers. If you feel imposed upon, you should just tell your daughter that you can't be as available as she's assuming you'll be.
children know something we can all learn from. even when we think our child rearing days are over they begin again to our surprise, with great joy.
Heck I'm having a baby and my Mum has said she is there to support me. So far she's more excited than me, getting me stuff and putting stuff aside, and can't wait to spend time with the little one. My Dad and sister are the same. It makes me wonder if I'll ever get to see my own baby! heheh
Sometimes the grandparents just want to help out and support as much as they can, who are we to argue with their choice if they're offering?
hi i agree with you they have children take full time jobs and expect the grandparents to watch their kids
I am not a grandparent but I am a mum of two boys I never had my sons to give to someone else to bring up even when i split from their dad i worked part time school hours and took school holidays
I don't think all young mums are like that but the ones that are do so because they are children themselves and act accordingly, it's up to their parents to put them in their place.
They are like a second mother.
The definition of *nanny* means a gardian that looks after a child (usualy a female).
Today many people refer to thier grandma as nanny, hence the meaning (a second mother).
It is a good thing to have a close caring family.
Not really fair!!
Untill quite recently my mother hasn't baby-sat more then about three times.
The situation has changed slightly and she has had to help out or I wouldn't be able to work but I never take the piss out of my mum and every day when I leave for work I thank her for her help!
My daughter is my daughter and I dont treat granma as second mum.
We're not all the same or from Essex!
ye excuse u now i think this is such a disgraceful question. i had my son at 15 and to yrs later me and his daddy r his parents. his nannies{and he has 5 of them} r his nannies. i hav neva askd me ma ta do anything thatu wudn ask a friend ta do and if any one every told me my ma is my sons surrogate mother id flip. not every yung mother gives up life aftr kids
well I've found in my personal experience i got pregnant at a very young age, when my daughter was born everyone likes to make a fuss especially the grandparents. My gran goes all coochy coo over any-ones baby's imagine one born into her family wants to help take care etc etc but when i needed some help i was asking too much same goes for my mother wants to be around asked for help i was asking too much i was relying too much on her. all said and done they didn't realise their own fussing round was actually their doing cant help it mothers instinct in them. so as for grannies being surrogate mothers most of you grannies i blame you cant help the coochy coos inside of you, may i also point out older people love the smell of babies don't know why but you do maybe something like most women crave the chocolate we only need a whiff.
ive found a link of amuzing grandparent quotes and sayings hope you find it interesting and a bit of a giggle too.
They have reembraced the extended family and love you loads be honoured or learn to say no.
sounds liek you have a personal issue
some 'grannies' enjoy it
some kids take advantage
at the end of the day you need to sort out why it annoys YOU not someone else
are you going to be one of those nans kids dont like, or are you going to embrace someone that will give you unconditional love when youre old and smell of wee =)
WHY DO GRANNIES THINK THERE GRANDCHILDREN ARE THERE OWN AND TRY AND BUTT IN HERE THERE AND EVERYWERE.sO YOU KNOW LOVE ITS NOT THAT WAY ALL THE TIME I CAN SEE YOUR POINT A BIT BUT IN SOME CASES ITS THE OTHER WAY ROUND THE GRANNIES ALWAYS IN YOUR FACE TELLING YOU HOW TO BRING YOUR KIDS UP WHEN TO PUT THEM TO BED WHAT TO FEED THEM ETC THE LIST IS ENDLESS.I AM 23 WITH A 3yo SON HE HAS 2 GRAND MOTHERS AND 1 GREAT GRANDMOTHER AND THEY LOOK AFTER HIM WHEN THEY WANT TO, I NEVER ASK THEM TO AND IF THEY DO IT IS FOR NO MORE THAN A COUPLE OF HOURS .
How can I become a surrogate mother in Canada?
Does anyone have any information on how to become a surrogate in Canada? How it works? What are the requirements? How can I become a surrogate mother in Canada?
you can try matching independently through adverts in the jobs:etc section of craigslist as well as off the similar site kijiji. http://www.surromomsonline.com has a big classified section and the forums also have a list of "unmatched members". i also know there are many CDN IP's looking for an SM at http://www.surrogatemother.com if you prefer to work through a consultant you can check out http://www.fertilityconsultants.ca
the main requirements for being a surrogate mother are that you have had at least one child, that the pregnancy was a normal one without severe complications. most clinics ask that your BMI is within a normal range. you can not be a smoker/drinker/drug user. be overall mentally %26amp; physically healthy.
best of luck.
How can I become a surrogate mother in Canada?
R U looking for business opporunity to make some money or really want to help someone.
you can try matching independently through adverts in the jobs:etc section of craigslist as well as off the similar site kijiji. http://www.surromomsonline.com has a big classified section and the forums also have a list of "unmatched members". i also know there are many CDN IP's looking for an SM at http://www.surrogatemother.com if you prefer to work through a consultant you can check out http://www.fertilityconsultants.ca
the main requirements for being a surrogate mother are that you have had at least one child, that the pregnancy was a normal one without severe complications. most clinics ask that your BMI is within a normal range. you can not be a smoker/drinker/drug user. be overall mentally %26amp; physically healthy.
best of luck.
How can I become a surrogate mother in Canada?
R U looking for business opporunity to make some money or really want to help someone.
Can i be a surrogate mother at 17 for a friend?
My friends mother wants another child but she had a problem a can not carry a child even if she conceives. She has the eggs and everything. Is there anyway for me, a 17 year old, to be a surrogate mother for her? I mean i know the people and i live with them so would it be okay?Can i be a surrogate mother at 17 for a friend?
G'day Wa-ya,
Thank you for your question.
It depends on the jurisdiction that you are in as each US state has its own laws. However, surrogates need to be at least 21 and there is a general upper limit of 40.
I would seek advice and then consider it when you turn 21.
Regards
I'm sorry, but no. Though the laws vary by state (some it's entirely illegal), no state law will allow a 17 year old to be a surrogate. And, unless you've given birth to a child already, no clinic will perform the procedure with you as the surrogate. It's a wonderful gesture that you want to do this, but if they do want it to be you, they will have to wait until you are older and have given birth to a child at term.Can i be a surrogate mother at 17 for a friend?
Hi, the clinic that's does the IVF (I presume you are using a fertilized egg of hers and her husband) will require you to be 21. They will also screen you ie ask a million questions. They may still refuse because this would be your first pregnancy, they usually like a womb provider to have had a few children of her own. You need to draw up legal agreements, so you need legal advice.
While what you are offering is a wonderful gift, the pregnancy hormones make you very clucky (natures way of making sure you don't just abandon a baby) so it could be extremely distressing to have to surrender a child you have carried for 9 months inside.
You have a very good, kind and generous heart, all the best!
U might want to wait till ur 18, but I mean, sure u can, but no u shouldn't. It's painful and in the end, you don't get to keep anything.....then again, pretend u took the eggs, and just go clubbing, get drunk, sleep with many men, and have fun ;), just make sure it's of the same race as your friends mother
Don't listen to anyone who said yes..... You do not want to end up in jail... do research, don't just listen to some random people who have access to a computer, it will not hold up in court.
No, in most states you have to be 21.
No. You are a minor.
G'day Wa-ya,
Thank you for your question.
It depends on the jurisdiction that you are in as each US state has its own laws. However, surrogates need to be at least 21 and there is a general upper limit of 40.
I would seek advice and then consider it when you turn 21.
Regards
I'm sorry, but no. Though the laws vary by state (some it's entirely illegal), no state law will allow a 17 year old to be a surrogate. And, unless you've given birth to a child already, no clinic will perform the procedure with you as the surrogate. It's a wonderful gesture that you want to do this, but if they do want it to be you, they will have to wait until you are older and have given birth to a child at term.Can i be a surrogate mother at 17 for a friend?
Hi, the clinic that's does the IVF (I presume you are using a fertilized egg of hers and her husband) will require you to be 21. They will also screen you ie ask a million questions. They may still refuse because this would be your first pregnancy, they usually like a womb provider to have had a few children of her own. You need to draw up legal agreements, so you need legal advice.
While what you are offering is a wonderful gift, the pregnancy hormones make you very clucky (natures way of making sure you don't just abandon a baby) so it could be extremely distressing to have to surrender a child you have carried for 9 months inside.
You have a very good, kind and generous heart, all the best!
U might want to wait till ur 18, but I mean, sure u can, but no u shouldn't. It's painful and in the end, you don't get to keep anything.....then again, pretend u took the eggs, and just go clubbing, get drunk, sleep with many men, and have fun ;), just make sure it's of the same race as your friends mother
Don't listen to anyone who said yes..... You do not want to end up in jail... do research, don't just listen to some random people who have access to a computer, it will not hold up in court.
No, in most states you have to be 21.
No. You are a minor.
Should surrogate motherhood be either banned or regulated by law?
I currently doing a research paper on Surrogate Mothers, and I wanted to conduct a survey on what people think about surrogate mothers. Please feel free to answer this question honestly.Should surrogate motherhood be either banned or regulated by law?
It should be regulated to the extent that all involved parties are clear on who gets the kid in the end. But I'm pretty sure there's already a law for that.
Regulated.But Regulated wisely.
Even though the Surrogate mothers do indeed carry the baby
The female, who couldn't have the child. Donates her eggs.
Which are carefully taken out of the ovaries.And put into the
surrogate mother, with the mans semen.Should surrogate motherhood be either banned or regulated by law?
Regulated. Intensely.
In the US some states have banned it and some have precise regulations. If you want to know what happened when it was thought of a just another type of contract look up Baby M. It was the biggest mess.
http://biotech.law.lsu.edu/cases/cloning鈥?/a>
In some countries by law the surrogate mother is deemed mother of the child. Huge problem there!
It should be regulated by law so no party can "cheat".
But no. I do not think it should be banned anywhere.
It's already regulated, dont see any issues with it...not like both parties dont know what they are getting into when they sign the contract.
It should be a little more fine tuned, because too many of them are changing their minds when the baby or babies come.
It should be regulated to the extent that all involved parties are clear on who gets the kid in the end. But I'm pretty sure there's already a law for that.
Regulated.But Regulated wisely.
Even though the Surrogate mothers do indeed carry the baby
The female, who couldn't have the child. Donates her eggs.
Which are carefully taken out of the ovaries.And put into the
surrogate mother, with the mans semen.Should surrogate motherhood be either banned or regulated by law?
Regulated. Intensely.
In the US some states have banned it and some have precise regulations. If you want to know what happened when it was thought of a just another type of contract look up Baby M. It was the biggest mess.
http://biotech.law.lsu.edu/cases/cloning鈥?/a>
In some countries by law the surrogate mother is deemed mother of the child. Huge problem there!
It should be regulated by law so no party can "cheat".
But no. I do not think it should be banned anywhere.
It's already regulated, dont see any issues with it...not like both parties dont know what they are getting into when they sign the contract.
It should be a little more fine tuned, because too many of them are changing their minds when the baby or babies come.
How many ladies out there are currently a surrogate mother, or have had a surrogate mother?
I am currently going thru my first experience as a gestational surrogate, and just wanted to know any one else's experiences with being a surrogate or having a surrogate.How many ladies out there are currently a surrogate mother, or have had a surrogate mother?
Hmmm, I'm curious if anyone else here has. That isn't the most common thing.
Some random 2 cents...
I think it is great when women are able to be that selfless. Pregnancy can take over your life, and doing it for your own child is challenge enough, but to do it for another is amazing. I don't think I would ever do it. I have too much else going on in my life that conflicts.
Also, I am always curious about whether or not the surrogate is the mother (biologically speaking). I am guessing you are not from the term "gestational surrogate". This I can easily understand. But to have my own biological child and give it up is not something I could do. I simply do not understand that case.
Not that you cared about any of that...How many ladies out there are currently a surrogate mother, or have had a surrogate mother?
muh uncle's girlfriend had onee.
it was different.
now she is considered family.
haha, but muh cuzins don't kno that.
they just think she is a good friend.
but its deffanily an experience.romance novels billy elliot san francisco
Hmmm, I'm curious if anyone else here has. That isn't the most common thing.
Some random 2 cents...
I think it is great when women are able to be that selfless. Pregnancy can take over your life, and doing it for your own child is challenge enough, but to do it for another is amazing. I don't think I would ever do it. I have too much else going on in my life that conflicts.
Also, I am always curious about whether or not the surrogate is the mother (biologically speaking). I am guessing you are not from the term "gestational surrogate". This I can easily understand. But to have my own biological child and give it up is not something I could do. I simply do not understand that case.
Not that you cared about any of that...How many ladies out there are currently a surrogate mother, or have had a surrogate mother?
muh uncle's girlfriend had onee.
it was different.
now she is considered family.
haha, but muh cuzins don't kno that.
they just think she is a good friend.
but its deffanily an experience.
How much do you think a surrogate mother would charge a couple?
My friends wife can't have kids, so they are looking into finding a surrogate mom. I am curious to know the procedures and average pricing.How much do you think a surrogate mother would charge a couple?
i think the going rate these days are round 20 to 25 million
i found this website a few days ago it's http://www.surrogatemothers.com
it's estimates the cost at about $20,000 and $50,000. The site gives lots of other info.How much do you think a surrogate mother would charge a couple?
Depends on the person you choose. I would think she would like to have someone she knows, The cost would be around $50,000 plus the cost of delivery.
It can get pretty pricy - many thousands and thousands of dollars!
No Idea but if you think that she is sacrificing 9 months of her life. I would suggest equivalent to 9 months pay plus medical bills. It would depend on what you can afford and what she agrees on with you.
That is between the people wanting a surrogate, their lawyer and the surrogate. None of your business.
well they do the insemination with a turkey baster! well, not exactly, but the guy doesn't get to do the other chic. they take an egg from the wife and the sperm from the man and make a test tube baby then they put it in the carrier and she grows it. if i was the woman i would have to be paid at least 10,000 plus whatever doctor bills and stuff were incurred. i don't know how much it is normally though.
i think the going rate these days are round 20 to 25 million
i found this website a few days ago it's http://www.surrogatemothers.com
it's estimates the cost at about $20,000 and $50,000. The site gives lots of other info.How much do you think a surrogate mother would charge a couple?
Depends on the person you choose. I would think she would like to have someone she knows, The cost would be around $50,000 plus the cost of delivery.
It can get pretty pricy - many thousands and thousands of dollars!
No Idea but if you think that she is sacrificing 9 months of her life. I would suggest equivalent to 9 months pay plus medical bills. It would depend on what you can afford and what she agrees on with you.
That is between the people wanting a surrogate, their lawyer and the surrogate. None of your business.
well they do the insemination with a turkey baster! well, not exactly, but the guy doesn't get to do the other chic. they take an egg from the wife and the sperm from the man and make a test tube baby then they put it in the carrier and she grows it. if i was the woman i would have to be paid at least 10,000 plus whatever doctor bills and stuff were incurred. i don't know how much it is normally though.
Surrogacy, how do i go about becoming a surrogate mother?
I'm interested in becoming a surrogate mother, i have already carried a baby for a friend of mine and would love to offer my services to another couple.
Does anyone know how i would go about listing myself as a potential surrogate?Surrogacy, how do i go about becoming a surrogate mother?
You've carried a baby for a friend, so you've already become a surrogate. Now you want to do another. Is that correct?
You can go to www.surromomsonline.com. They have a link for couples looking for surrogates and the other way around. Also a good place to join the boards for support.
You can also go through an agency, but it's hard to know who is a good one. Also, unless your state has legalized surrogacy, you would likely end up with an agency from California or Texas or another state where it's legalized.
Good luck!Surrogacy, how do i go about becoming a surrogate mother?
im on the same boat as you, what i do is google surrogate agency and it should lead you to websites that allows you to fill out an application to become a surrogate, just be sure to check if theyre legit. theres a lot of websites for that.
Does anyone know how i would go about listing myself as a potential surrogate?Surrogacy, how do i go about becoming a surrogate mother?
You've carried a baby for a friend, so you've already become a surrogate. Now you want to do another. Is that correct?
You can go to www.surromomsonline.com. They have a link for couples looking for surrogates and the other way around. Also a good place to join the boards for support.
You can also go through an agency, but it's hard to know who is a good one. Also, unless your state has legalized surrogacy, you would likely end up with an agency from California or Texas or another state where it's legalized.
Good luck!Surrogacy, how do i go about becoming a surrogate mother?
im on the same boat as you, what i do is google surrogate agency and it should lead you to websites that allows you to fill out an application to become a surrogate, just be sure to check if theyre legit. theres a lot of websites for that.
Will I loose my food stamp benefit in washington state if I become a surrogate mother for a friend?
I am planning to become a traditional surrogate mother for a friend. We are not going to do this through IVF clinic. we were planning to do this on our own. I am already receiving food stamp and I have also applied for housing. Will i loose all of that benefit if I become a traditional surrogate mother for my friend?Will I loose my food stamp benefit in washington state if I become a surrogate mother for a friend?
No you wontWill I loose my food stamp benefit in washington state if I become a surrogate mother for a friend?
No you wont unless it is increasing your income. It will probably increase, or you could apply for wic.
No you wontWill I loose my food stamp benefit in washington state if I become a surrogate mother for a friend?
No you wont unless it is increasing your income. It will probably increase, or you could apply for wic.
What is less expensive, having a surrogate mother or going through an adoption?
I am having a hard time deciding whether to go with an adoption or having a surrogate. I want to start planning because maybe within the next year i will have to choose either of. Thanks.What is less expensive, having a surrogate mother or going through an adoption?
There is more to surrogacy and adoption than the cost. I would recommend that you do a lot of research before you pursue either option. Money should not be a deciding factor.
To the "ew" momma... Congratulations on being able to bear children. Not everyone is so lucky. Your "ew" made me "ew" you.
Anyway... to what's important. I am an unmarried male. Because of my situation, it would be almost equally expensive to adopt than to use a surrogate mother.
I agree with the previous poster, who mentioned that money shouldn't be the deciding factor... at least not the most important. I think it should depend on your situation, the possibilities that you have to qualify as an adoptive parent, and your location.What is less expensive, having a surrogate mother or going through an adoption?
I'm pretty sure adoption is less expensive. If you live in a country without national healthcare, you have to pay all the bills for your surrogate which can be a lot. It would be extremely unlikely that your health insurance would cover a surrogate.
Generally, I believe surrogacy is more expensive.
You usually pay the mother's hospital and medical fees, as well as a payment. (at least the ones that I've known)
Adoption generally costs 15-30,000 grand here.
The surrogacy costs more like 50,000 and 60,000
Adopting through foster care doesn't usually cost a thing. If you have a family member or friend who could be a surrogate I am sure that would be far less than a stranger.
I'm not sure but maybe you could try adopting through the foster system? I see that on the show Adoption Stories all the time. Good luck.
it might be close to same process and cost. One still needs to get adoption homestudy which is the major cost in adoption.
ew... i wouldn't want someone else carrying my child... and besides... why not adopt one that already needs a home?
Neither - surrogacy and adoption both screw kids up!
Do you have to pay to adopt a child?
Yes, more massively than handing over any amount of money can make up for.
My aparents have had to watch as their kid goes through all of the agony and trauma that comes with being adopted. They have had absolutely no help in dealing with any of this - as all good parents do, they winged it. It's testament to their brilliance that I'm even remotely sane (hush you lot at the back! :p) and a functioning member of society.
Adoption screws kids up. It's not a fact that the adoption mongers like seeing said in public, but it's true. Not every kid, obviously - some on here are happy to've been adopted, but a surprisingly high percentage of us grow up deeply screwed up.
I was abandoned to adoption at seven months old. I honestly and truly wish that I'd been aborted instead of abandoned to adoption, so please be prepared for the fact that any kid you adopt could grow up (I'm 37, so definitely and legally a "grown up" in pretty much everywhere) to be as screwed up as me.
I didn't have a bad adoption - my afamily are the best I could ever have chosen... but if I'd been able to choose, and I'd known then what I know now, I'd've chosen to be aborted before birth instead, 'cause at least that way the lifetime of agony I've gone through would've been over in minutes, instead of the decades that I've been suffering for now.
Please read back through a few months worth of resolved questions in here http://answers.yahoo.com/dir/index?sid=2鈥?/a> and then go read through all of the books and links listed at http://7rin-on-adoption.dreamwidth.org/t鈥?/a>
Comprehend that lot, and you'll be about ready to adopt. :)
There is more to surrogacy and adoption than the cost. I would recommend that you do a lot of research before you pursue either option. Money should not be a deciding factor.
To the "ew" momma... Congratulations on being able to bear children. Not everyone is so lucky. Your "ew" made me "ew" you.
Anyway... to what's important. I am an unmarried male. Because of my situation, it would be almost equally expensive to adopt than to use a surrogate mother.
I agree with the previous poster, who mentioned that money shouldn't be the deciding factor... at least not the most important. I think it should depend on your situation, the possibilities that you have to qualify as an adoptive parent, and your location.What is less expensive, having a surrogate mother or going through an adoption?
I'm pretty sure adoption is less expensive. If you live in a country without national healthcare, you have to pay all the bills for your surrogate which can be a lot. It would be extremely unlikely that your health insurance would cover a surrogate.
Generally, I believe surrogacy is more expensive.
You usually pay the mother's hospital and medical fees, as well as a payment. (at least the ones that I've known)
Adoption generally costs 15-30,000 grand here.
The surrogacy costs more like 50,000 and 60,000
Adopting through foster care doesn't usually cost a thing. If you have a family member or friend who could be a surrogate I am sure that would be far less than a stranger.
I'm not sure but maybe you could try adopting through the foster system? I see that on the show Adoption Stories all the time. Good luck.
it might be close to same process and cost. One still needs to get adoption homestudy which is the major cost in adoption.
ew... i wouldn't want someone else carrying my child... and besides... why not adopt one that already needs a home?
Neither - surrogacy and adoption both screw kids up!
Do you have to pay to adopt a child?
Yes, more massively than handing over any amount of money can make up for.
My aparents have had to watch as their kid goes through all of the agony and trauma that comes with being adopted. They have had absolutely no help in dealing with any of this - as all good parents do, they winged it. It's testament to their brilliance that I'm even remotely sane (hush you lot at the back! :p) and a functioning member of society.
Adoption screws kids up. It's not a fact that the adoption mongers like seeing said in public, but it's true. Not every kid, obviously - some on here are happy to've been adopted, but a surprisingly high percentage of us grow up deeply screwed up.
I was abandoned to adoption at seven months old. I honestly and truly wish that I'd been aborted instead of abandoned to adoption, so please be prepared for the fact that any kid you adopt could grow up (I'm 37, so definitely and legally a "grown up" in pretty much everywhere) to be as screwed up as me.
I didn't have a bad adoption - my afamily are the best I could ever have chosen... but if I'd been able to choose, and I'd known then what I know now, I'd've chosen to be aborted before birth instead, 'cause at least that way the lifetime of agony I've gone through would've been over in minutes, instead of the decades that I've been suffering for now.
Please read back through a few months worth of resolved questions in here http://answers.yahoo.com/dir/index?sid=2鈥?/a> and then go read through all of the books and links listed at http://7rin-on-adoption.dreamwidth.org/t鈥?/a>
Comprehend that lot, and you'll be about ready to adopt. :)
What do you think of a man who has two daughters with a surrogate mother and have no legal mother?
What do you think of a man who has two daughters with a surrogate mother and have no legal mother? This is the only way a man can be a father and not pay child support for 18 years in the US. He used a sex selection poses to have girls, that way he can have grand children in the future. If he has boys he might not have any grand children.What do you think of a man who has two daughters with a surrogate mother and have no legal mother?
He's had this account for a little bit now hahaha... uh-oh it's almost 7! You know what that means, don't you? Medication time!
Oh lookie... piercedears got a new account.....What do you think of a man who has two daughters with a surrogate mother and have no legal mother?
Oh god, Na is back with a new account.
So in your last question you were ready to commit suicide to avoid paying child support...
Perhaps you just shouldn't have kids!?!?!
Is there something wrong with you that you can't find someone to be with to have children and live in a relationship!?!? Why do you always ask about having children but not having to pay support???? Try finding a mate and getting married AND STAYING that way....
Get counselling. You need it.
PS- there would be no difference between girls and boys and the chances of having grandkids...!!!!gas mileage chuys
He's had this account for a little bit now hahaha... uh-oh it's almost 7! You know what that means, don't you? Medication time!
Oh lookie... piercedears got a new account.....What do you think of a man who has two daughters with a surrogate mother and have no legal mother?
Oh god, Na is back with a new account.
So in your last question you were ready to commit suicide to avoid paying child support...
Perhaps you just shouldn't have kids!?!?!
Is there something wrong with you that you can't find someone to be with to have children and live in a relationship!?!? Why do you always ask about having children but not having to pay support???? Try finding a mate and getting married AND STAYING that way....
Get counselling. You need it.
PS- there would be no difference between girls and boys and the chances of having grandkids...!!!!
How could i become a surrogate mother to animals?
I am going to school to become a vet-tech and ever since i saw this program on animal planet i really want to become a surrogate mother mainly to wild cats like tigers,linx and other exotics on top of that too, but i have no idea where i could even begin to do such a thing, i am going to Bel-rea in denver and my goal after that is to move to san diego to work at the zoo but i am hoping that someone has some answers of who i can talk to or how i can get involved with something like that...Thanks!How could i become a surrogate mother to animals?
you could probably contact a local zoo or even contact animal planet and they could help you because they are in the need of surrogate mothers for animals a lot. you are 100% right about the surrogate mother thing, the people who have answered you so far must not know anything about animals.
Thank you! man! i asked a serious question to only get stupid answers from people who dont know what they are talking about! but thank you very much for not making me look like i am a phsyco with tiger eggs in my uterus lol!
join up with zoos and the circus i am sure both will do you good.
Wouldn't their sharp nails/teeth cut/tear your uterus?
If I were to do it I woudn't tell my sig other what I was doing and when I went in to labor and the animal popped out, the look on their face would be priceless. How's that for a Visa commercial.
wow and i thought i was confused. good luck, try the spca, sorry for the joke.
I'm not sure anyone would surrogate a wild animal, or even any animal.....maybe a better word for it is foster mom. Surrogate....well, look it up, means you become impregnated with an animal.
I'm really sure you mean foster an animal who is allready born. In which case, see the zoo keepers like you have done. Also a degree in bio would help a lot, better yet if you are a veterinarian or doctor.
I have a year pass to San Diego Zoo every year, it is so fascinating to see the animals there. I know the zoo is world famous so they will not let just anyone in to see to and treat the animals, though. Be a foster mom at any zoo and see how it goes. I thought my children's messes were bad until I smell the monkey area,,,,,, :-(((( That is horrible.
Good luck and happy fostering.......
Are you giving milk? I had a friend of mine, she was nursing, and when they bought a new little calf, the little one tried to nurse her. I doubt it would be very comfortable to actually do it tho. Especially to try nursing a tiiger or other such animal. of course we drink milk from cows, goats, and other animals, and you could pump your milk, and feed them that way too. i bet it would be a cool experience.
I personally like drinking milk direct from my cow :-)
what program was that, check your facts, surrogate are you sure...you are real confused
you could probably contact a local zoo or even contact animal planet and they could help you because they are in the need of surrogate mothers for animals a lot. you are 100% right about the surrogate mother thing, the people who have answered you so far must not know anything about animals.
Thank you! man! i asked a serious question to only get stupid answers from people who dont know what they are talking about! but thank you very much for not making me look like i am a phsyco with tiger eggs in my uterus lol!
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How could i become a surrogate mother to animals?join up with zoos and the circus i am sure both will do you good.
Wouldn't their sharp nails/teeth cut/tear your uterus?
If I were to do it I woudn't tell my sig other what I was doing and when I went in to labor and the animal popped out, the look on their face would be priceless. How's that for a Visa commercial.
wow and i thought i was confused. good luck, try the spca, sorry for the joke.
I'm not sure anyone would surrogate a wild animal, or even any animal.....maybe a better word for it is foster mom. Surrogate....well, look it up, means you become impregnated with an animal.
I'm really sure you mean foster an animal who is allready born. In which case, see the zoo keepers like you have done. Also a degree in bio would help a lot, better yet if you are a veterinarian or doctor.
I have a year pass to San Diego Zoo every year, it is so fascinating to see the animals there. I know the zoo is world famous so they will not let just anyone in to see to and treat the animals, though. Be a foster mom at any zoo and see how it goes. I thought my children's messes were bad until I smell the monkey area,,,,,, :-(((( That is horrible.
Good luck and happy fostering.......
Are you giving milk? I had a friend of mine, she was nursing, and when they bought a new little calf, the little one tried to nurse her. I doubt it would be very comfortable to actually do it tho. Especially to try nursing a tiiger or other such animal. of course we drink milk from cows, goats, and other animals, and you could pump your milk, and feed them that way too. i bet it would be a cool experience.
I personally like drinking milk direct from my cow :-)
what program was that, check your facts, surrogate are you sure...you are real confused
Can i live in Louisiana and be a surrogate mother to someone in Texas?
I live in Louisiana and me and my husband have been thinking about me being a surrogate mother. This is something that I feel strong about and would love the chance to help a family out. We have a child of our own already and I couldn't see myself without my child. So giving someone that opportunity would be wonderful. I know Louisiana doesn't allow surrogates or something like that. But can I live in Louisiana and still be a surrogate mother to a single/couple in Texas?Can i live in Louisiana and be a surrogate mother to someone in Texas?
Texas is a gross hillibillie state why would you wanna do thatCan i live in Louisiana and be a surrogate mother to someone in Texas?
Since this would be a legal relationship, and would depend somewhat on Louisiana law, it would be smarter to consult an attorney about this. It won't cost much to do so, and could save you a lot of trouble down the line.
Texas is a gross hillibillie state why would you wanna do thatCan i live in Louisiana and be a surrogate mother to someone in Texas?
Since this would be a legal relationship, and would depend somewhat on Louisiana law, it would be smarter to consult an attorney about this. It won't cost much to do so, and could save you a lot of trouble down the line.
Surrogate mothers? Experiences?
Is anyone here a surrogate mother or ever been one? Or did you have a surrogate mother for your child? What was the experience?
I am young and pregnant with my second and my mom told people she works with and the one lady has been trying to conceive and she said ah can't I have him? When my mom said I'm pregnant but not in a joking way. I feel REALLY bad but I wouldn't give my baby up but I would maybe be a surrogate but I fear that I would get a bond with the baby so I'm too scared to be a surrogate mother. The lady can't have children because of something that she has. I forgot the name but anyway whats everyones experiences?Surrogate mothers? Experiences?
Surrogates never give up THEIR baby, they just babysit someone else's for a while. A long while. LOL
A surro also has to feel 100% ok with what they're doing. You're not alone in being unsure. There are lots of people who feel sad for the infertile, but don't know if they could. And that's ok.
As for bonding, well that's the way mother nature made us. We're supposed to bond with babies and children, they need us. There's nothing wrong with building a bond of caring between an adult and a child.
Do you have any nieces or nephews? Or even close friends with children? You care for them don't you? You would look after them if their parents couldn't, right? And when their parents could look after them would you have any problem returning them to their parents?
I am young and pregnant with my second and my mom told people she works with and the one lady has been trying to conceive and she said ah can't I have him? When my mom said I'm pregnant but not in a joking way. I feel REALLY bad but I wouldn't give my baby up but I would maybe be a surrogate but I fear that I would get a bond with the baby so I'm too scared to be a surrogate mother. The lady can't have children because of something that she has. I forgot the name but anyway whats everyones experiences?Surrogate mothers? Experiences?
Surrogates never give up THEIR baby, they just babysit someone else's for a while. A long while. LOL
A surro also has to feel 100% ok with what they're doing. You're not alone in being unsure. There are lots of people who feel sad for the infertile, but don't know if they could. And that's ok.
As for bonding, well that's the way mother nature made us. We're supposed to bond with babies and children, they need us. There's nothing wrong with building a bond of caring between an adult and a child.
Do you have any nieces or nephews? Or even close friends with children? You care for them don't you? You would look after them if their parents couldn't, right? And when their parents could look after them would you have any problem returning them to their parents?
If my cousin is going to be my Surrogate Mother will I have to pay all those prices?
My cousin said that she would be my Surrogate Mother. But I have being looking at all the prices I would have to pay if I wanted someone outside my family. So can I do I for cheap or do I have to pay her $20,000 to $120,000, or is that just for women whose job is a Surrogate Mother?? I will pay for screening tests and necessities.If my cousin is going to be my Surrogate Mother will I have to pay all those prices?
id personally still pay her because although shes your cousin and may offer discount, shes going through huge amount of changes for you and its only fair to give her something in return. shell need maternity clothes, health care assuming youre not in the uk and having to pay private. but you should talk to her about it, ask her how much shed like for it just dont put her on the spot as she may offer a discount because youre family even if she doesnt really want to. i hope it all works out well shes doing a really lovely thing for you.
Very rarely would someone pay a high fee to their family member for being their carrier. However, you really should consider paying her something every month (at least $500) to compensate her for her time and to give something back to her for the enormous thing she's doing for you. A surrogate's job is huge. It's not like typical pregnancies, especially if it's a gestational surrogacy via IVF. There are a ton of shots, doctor appointments, time away from family and work. Above and beyond what you give your surrogate, you are responsible for everything, medical bills, travel, even parking. You can't go into a surrogacy with a mindset of getting by "on the cheap". What if there are complications? What if she misses work for bedrest? You have to pay for all of her lost time from work and all of the uncovered medical.If my cousin is going to be my Surrogate Mother will I have to pay all those prices?
For someone to be a true surrogate, you would have to use your egg and your husband's sperm. Then, the embryo would be implanted into her uterus. You would have to pay the fee for IVF, which is usually close to $15,000-$20,000. So yes, even if you don't pay her, you have to pay for the medical procedure.
You need to talk to her about it. If she just wants to do it out of the goodness of her heart then you need to pay for her medical expenses and general things that have to do with the child. If you are talking about compensation outside of that, ask her what she thinks is fair and negotiate.
You need to discuss this with her, she may be ok with you just paying her expenses and that's it, or she may want some money for herself.
You need to ask her this
id personally still pay her because although shes your cousin and may offer discount, shes going through huge amount of changes for you and its only fair to give her something in return. shell need maternity clothes, health care assuming youre not in the uk and having to pay private. but you should talk to her about it, ask her how much shed like for it just dont put her on the spot as she may offer a discount because youre family even if she doesnt really want to. i hope it all works out well shes doing a really lovely thing for you.
Very rarely would someone pay a high fee to their family member for being their carrier. However, you really should consider paying her something every month (at least $500) to compensate her for her time and to give something back to her for the enormous thing she's doing for you. A surrogate's job is huge. It's not like typical pregnancies, especially if it's a gestational surrogacy via IVF. There are a ton of shots, doctor appointments, time away from family and work. Above and beyond what you give your surrogate, you are responsible for everything, medical bills, travel, even parking. You can't go into a surrogacy with a mindset of getting by "on the cheap". What if there are complications? What if she misses work for bedrest? You have to pay for all of her lost time from work and all of the uncovered medical.If my cousin is going to be my Surrogate Mother will I have to pay all those prices?
For someone to be a true surrogate, you would have to use your egg and your husband's sperm. Then, the embryo would be implanted into her uterus. You would have to pay the fee for IVF, which is usually close to $15,000-$20,000. So yes, even if you don't pay her, you have to pay for the medical procedure.
You need to talk to her about it. If she just wants to do it out of the goodness of her heart then you need to pay for her medical expenses and general things that have to do with the child. If you are talking about compensation outside of that, ask her what she thinks is fair and negotiate.
You need to discuss this with her, she may be ok with you just paying her expenses and that's it, or she may want some money for herself.
You need to ask her this
Why would God allow surrogate mothers to have babies?
Why, just why, would he allow it to happen?
God should allow babies to come by just having sexual intercourse
God should have made it the only way to create a child is by having intercourse.
Why couldn't Michael Jackson make real kids? What happen?.
Will God even honor his kids?
Do these kids have souls?
God should know better to let people have kids in other ways.Why would God allow surrogate mothers to have babies?
God gave us our free will. He alllows a lot of things and He acts according to His Word.
Of course God gave these kids souls, they have the same offer all of s have
Free-will, look it up.
Trolls are funny!Why would God allow surrogate mothers to have babies?
Free will.
God works in mysterious ways.
Imagine that... someone who thinks he can second-guess God. The answer to your question: Maybe because God has a whole lot more wisdom than you do, and sees a bigger picture than you do.
Cuz everyone has got to make their own choices....thats another beauty about God....He grants us freedom
"Allow" is the key word. Such mothers have free will. The decision is theirs, as is full responsibility for the decision.
Free will.
Because there are ALOT of people that would love a Family!! (Remember, "Adoption", too.)
why does it matter to you?
nobody told you to have a surrogate?
thats a very closed minded and disgusting way to talk about people, let alone children. These women have children for people who cant, whats so wrong with that?
Every single child and adult human being have souls.
what you need to understand is this, if God doesn't want that specific family to have a child, it simply wont happen. The truth of the matter is, some people can not have children, so they find a way to have one because they want one that badly. But if God says no, it's a no. Surrogate mothers are not new. They're in the bible as well. Check out the story of the king. He was told that he'd have a baby by his queen but she could not give birth, so she got a surrogate.
Children born to surrogate mothers are fully and completely human by any definition.
The Book of Genesis is replete with instances of child-surrogacy. That's part of the reason that Jacob had so many children is that he had two wives and two concubines. Rachel had children, but Leah could not. So Leah have Jacob her servant as a concubine as a surrogate. Then when Rachel got older, she gave her servant as a concubine to Jacob in order to have more children. Then Leah had her own children and Jacob meanwhile had to feed 17 mouths. His own (1), his wives, (2) his concubines (2), and his children (12!)
Wow!...you are full of questions!.....I think Michael could make children, he probably just choose not to because he was dealing with issues about his own self-image..My guess is, he did not want babies that resemble him because he never embraced the beautiful person, before all of the alterations, that stared back at him from his mirror....Surrogate Mothers are really a blessing to so many woman whose wombs are barren. So, they are instrumental in bringing so many people joy because they make it possible for these women and men to become parents.....
God isn't in the baby making field...or anywhere else. What's the matter with surrogate mother's? There goes that Christian bs again. If it isn't logical, it's Christian.
"Do these kids have souls" %26amp; "Will got even honor his kids" ahahahaha what, are they going to zap into thin air because they're not 'valid'? Did the coupon expire?
Your question is illogical.
It is not God's doing it is mans. Let's not blame God for everything.
It is not like you working for someone and you got unfair treatment. It is a whole different situation.
If you think these things why don't you get on your computer and organize a group of people to do something about it?
Your complaints are very immature.
I dont think Michael Jackson was a believer. so when you are a non believer, anything goes.
Yes, Andre the children have souls.
God said: Be fruitful and multiply. But some people can't for whatever the reason. But I think God stepped in a long time ago and gave mankind the ability to change what nature took away.
He gave man the knowledge to transplant organs to save lives and He gave us the knowledge to learn how to correct our physical problems and the drive to try.
it's free will and gos does not like evil people
God did not intend for his world to make decisions that have been made. Man made decisions are not necessarily God's decision. As far as MJ goes, what does it matter? It's none of our business, he's just an icon for the world to see. His decision to have these children is none of our business. What would have been our business is if they were not taken care of, which as you can see by the children's love for him....they were loved. God honors all of his people. All of his children. Now, once MJ"s children are grown, if they choose not to follow God then again....their souls will be between themselves alone and God. We cannot judge, we can only be responsible for our own Salvation
It is wrong in the eye's of God for a man to have sex with another woman, other than His wife. God never said we could or could not, but that dose not mean we can do want we want. Their are a lot of children who need adoption.
Mat 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
1Co 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
It dose make a difference who the woman gets pregnant from, a mans sperm is not to be put into another woman's body for any reason. Whether it is artificial or sex it is still sin. If not, why not? Remember the silence of the scriptures, we are silent when they are silent.planet hollywood dcu center
God should allow babies to come by just having sexual intercourse
God should have made it the only way to create a child is by having intercourse.
Why couldn't Michael Jackson make real kids? What happen?.
Will God even honor his kids?
Do these kids have souls?
God should know better to let people have kids in other ways.Why would God allow surrogate mothers to have babies?
God gave us our free will. He alllows a lot of things and He acts according to His Word.
Of course God gave these kids souls, they have the same offer all of s have
Free-will, look it up.
Trolls are funny!Why would God allow surrogate mothers to have babies?
Free will.
God works in mysterious ways.
Imagine that... someone who thinks he can second-guess God. The answer to your question: Maybe because God has a whole lot more wisdom than you do, and sees a bigger picture than you do.
Cuz everyone has got to make their own choices....thats another beauty about God....He grants us freedom
"Allow" is the key word. Such mothers have free will. The decision is theirs, as is full responsibility for the decision.
Free will.
Because there are ALOT of people that would love a Family!! (Remember, "Adoption", too.)
why does it matter to you?
nobody told you to have a surrogate?
thats a very closed minded and disgusting way to talk about people, let alone children. These women have children for people who cant, whats so wrong with that?
Every single child and adult human being have souls.
what you need to understand is this, if God doesn't want that specific family to have a child, it simply wont happen. The truth of the matter is, some people can not have children, so they find a way to have one because they want one that badly. But if God says no, it's a no. Surrogate mothers are not new. They're in the bible as well. Check out the story of the king. He was told that he'd have a baby by his queen but she could not give birth, so she got a surrogate.
Children born to surrogate mothers are fully and completely human by any definition.
The Book of Genesis is replete with instances of child-surrogacy. That's part of the reason that Jacob had so many children is that he had two wives and two concubines. Rachel had children, but Leah could not. So Leah have Jacob her servant as a concubine as a surrogate. Then when Rachel got older, she gave her servant as a concubine to Jacob in order to have more children. Then Leah had her own children and Jacob meanwhile had to feed 17 mouths. His own (1), his wives, (2) his concubines (2), and his children (12!)
Wow!...you are full of questions!.....I think Michael could make children, he probably just choose not to because he was dealing with issues about his own self-image..My guess is, he did not want babies that resemble him because he never embraced the beautiful person, before all of the alterations, that stared back at him from his mirror....Surrogate Mothers are really a blessing to so many woman whose wombs are barren. So, they are instrumental in bringing so many people joy because they make it possible for these women and men to become parents.....
God isn't in the baby making field...or anywhere else. What's the matter with surrogate mother's? There goes that Christian bs again. If it isn't logical, it's Christian.
"Do these kids have souls" %26amp; "Will got even honor his kids" ahahahaha what, are they going to zap into thin air because they're not 'valid'? Did the coupon expire?
Your question is illogical.
It is not God's doing it is mans. Let's not blame God for everything.
It is not like you working for someone and you got unfair treatment. It is a whole different situation.
If you think these things why don't you get on your computer and organize a group of people to do something about it?
Your complaints are very immature.
I dont think Michael Jackson was a believer. so when you are a non believer, anything goes.
Yes, Andre the children have souls.
God said: Be fruitful and multiply. But some people can't for whatever the reason. But I think God stepped in a long time ago and gave mankind the ability to change what nature took away.
He gave man the knowledge to transplant organs to save lives and He gave us the knowledge to learn how to correct our physical problems and the drive to try.
it's free will and gos does not like evil people
God did not intend for his world to make decisions that have been made. Man made decisions are not necessarily God's decision. As far as MJ goes, what does it matter? It's none of our business, he's just an icon for the world to see. His decision to have these children is none of our business. What would have been our business is if they were not taken care of, which as you can see by the children's love for him....they were loved. God honors all of his people. All of his children. Now, once MJ"s children are grown, if they choose not to follow God then again....their souls will be between themselves alone and God. We cannot judge, we can only be responsible for our own Salvation
It is wrong in the eye's of God for a man to have sex with another woman, other than His wife. God never said we could or could not, but that dose not mean we can do want we want. Their are a lot of children who need adoption.
Mat 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
1Co 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
It dose make a difference who the woman gets pregnant from, a mans sperm is not to be put into another woman's body for any reason. Whether it is artificial or sex it is still sin. If not, why not? Remember the silence of the scriptures, we are silent when they are silent.
Would you be willing to be a surrogate mother for a single man?
Would you be willing to be a surrogate mother for a single man who wants to become a father that has no legal mother? Do you expect compensation other than expenses and life and medical insurance? Would you still want to see that child on a daily/weakly basis if the father will allow it? Would you be willing to be a surrogate mother for a single man?
I think it's unethical to expect any compensation but for medical coverage while being a surrogate. I believe that's the only compensation that should be allowed.
I don't think I would ever be a surrogate. My husband doesn't like the idea of somebody else's sperm inside of me, sexually or implanted.
If i'm not the legal mother, why would I expect to see the child?
sure, i'd be willing to be a surrogate mother. (if i wasn't in a relationship myself.)
i'd expect compensation, yes. not just medical insurance and expenses- but a decent chunk of change. Nothing outrageous, but probably at least 5 grand. Because think about it. That's 9 months that I'd be carrying a child for you. And towards the end of my pregnancy - i wont be able to work a normal job. would need some kind of compensation. Would you be willing to be a surrogate mother for a single man?
depends on who the man is...it would have to be a close friend, friend of the family or family member...and no I would not want compensation...just the bills to have the baby...
and I agree with the first person somewhat....I guess I didn't think of the compensation cause I am a stay at home mom...but I guess if I did work, I would be missing work...but I wouldn't need maternity leave cause I would not be carrying for the baby...so....IDK
Sorry, but I feel that surrogacy is unethical. Surrogacy has been around long enough for the children to grow up and describe their feelings... and those feelings have not been good. Please read the blogs of the children of surrogates.
There are plenty of children, in the US and abroad, that need families.
I would always support adoption over surrogacy.
I think it's unethical to expect any compensation but for medical coverage while being a surrogate. I believe that's the only compensation that should be allowed.
I don't think I would ever be a surrogate. My husband doesn't like the idea of somebody else's sperm inside of me, sexually or implanted.
If i'm not the legal mother, why would I expect to see the child?
sure, i'd be willing to be a surrogate mother. (if i wasn't in a relationship myself.)
i'd expect compensation, yes. not just medical insurance and expenses- but a decent chunk of change. Nothing outrageous, but probably at least 5 grand. Because think about it. That's 9 months that I'd be carrying a child for you. And towards the end of my pregnancy - i wont be able to work a normal job. would need some kind of compensation. Would you be willing to be a surrogate mother for a single man?
depends on who the man is...it would have to be a close friend, friend of the family or family member...and no I would not want compensation...just the bills to have the baby...
and I agree with the first person somewhat....I guess I didn't think of the compensation cause I am a stay at home mom...but I guess if I did work, I would be missing work...but I wouldn't need maternity leave cause I would not be carrying for the baby...so....IDK
Sorry, but I feel that surrogacy is unethical. Surrogacy has been around long enough for the children to grow up and describe their feelings... and those feelings have not been good. Please read the blogs of the children of surrogates.
There are plenty of children, in the US and abroad, that need families.
I would always support adoption over surrogacy.
What does it take to be a surrogate mother?
My sister has tried to have a child and has had many miscarriages. The doctor told her that her womb was weak and it isn't strong enough to hold the baby in there for a whole pregnancy term. I am considering being a surrogate mother for her, but I am not sure what all it takes to do so and what the requirements are before I tell her, so I can make sure that I can do it. This is serious and I don't need any stupid jokes. Serious answers only please. Thank you!What does it take to be a surrogate mother?
I think they will do a series of blood tests first, to make sure you are healthy. They will take eggs from your sister and implant them into your uterus. You %26amp; your sis will have to go on birth control pills so that your cycles are exactly the same. After that you take care of yourself in the same way as you did when you were pregnant before.
PS - Speaking as a sister, I think it is wonderful that you willing to do this for her.
have you ever been pregnant? well i think you must have some experience of being pregnant and then you can be a surrogate...good luckWhat does it take to be a surrogate mother?
You need a healthy reproductive system and the willingness to go through a pregnancy for someone else.
Wow, I really wouldn't do it if I were you. It's gotta be incredibly hard to give up a baby that grew inside of you and if you are giving it to a relative that means you'll be around the child all the time. The physical toll is one thing but that could really tear you up inside emotionally.
I think it is noble of you to consider helping your sister like that but think really hard about it. Maybe there are other ways you can help her - like assisting her looking for an adoption.
you must be healthy and want to do everything possible to have the best pregnancy taking all your vitamins and also being able to accept all the battle scars after the flabby pouch that never goes away after gaining 40-60lbs the strechmarks you will have for life after and many other emotions that go along with being pregnant so if you are strong willed then you can do this and i think it is a great gift good luck
I think you have to be able to know that you are carrying someone else's baby and you can't get attached, they say a lot of surrogate moters end up getting attached and then there are problems, but being your sister that shouldn't be a problem, you both will have to go to the doctors and they will do the implantation.
talk about it with your doctor before you get her hopes up and just see what (if any) requirements there are to be considered a good candidate. it will probably be expensive though since implantation of embryos is around $25,000 (my friend had it done a few years ago) and i'm not totally sure how the insurance works around that since it is a voluntary thing, not a medically necessasary thing. i would just do some research and ask your own doctor and insurance provider about it before making any decisions. good luck!!
there is a lot of responsibilitys to go through to become a surrogate mother
I think that you are a great perosn to even think about this. I would do it for my sister if she couldn't carry a full term healthy pregnancy. I am not sure what all the requirement are but if you were to call your gynocologist and ask them I am sure that they may be able to point you in the right direction. When you do find out the right answers to this email me or IM me and let me know, please.
You will have to go through counseling to make sure you can handle carrying a child for nine months, then hand him over to his parents. You will need a physical, to make sure you are healthy. There will be some papers drawn up that everybody involved will have to sign. I'm not sure what the requirements are in your state, but you will probably have to be over 21. After all that, you will have to have a procedure done to become pregnant.
This is a serious decision, one you have obviously thought out. Your sister is lucky to have you. Good luck, and God bless you!
i work with a woman who has a son who's wife cannot have children so her cousin carried a baby for her (she had 2 kid's already ) she waited 15 year's for a baby and no they didn't have to have sex , they talk openly about it, would you like me to ask ? if you would like you may e- mail me
obviously your sister can produce children but not Carry them so a fertilized egg from your sister will be implanted in you you will actually be carrying your sisters child for her it will be hers in every aspect you will be lending your womb to carry it and provide nutrition for it I suggest that the both of you speak to a therapist specializing in this field so you know whats to be expected and what to look forward to if you do go ahead with this and decide this is whats best just go into with understanding that this will be your niece or nephew and by all means do it legally with a lawyer so there is no problems arising in the future and your sisters insurance may even cover the costs I wish you and your family the best what ever it is you decide to do
I think that what they do is take sperm from the father and an egg from the mother and after combining them in a lab (test tube baby) they put it into you and away you go for the next nine months. I don't think there is any actual requirements to being a surrogate mother, but you may want to draw up some sort of contract between you and your sister and brother-in-law before you go through with it. I would talk to a doctor and a lawyer before I mentioned it to your sister to see where you stand.
I think they will do a series of blood tests first, to make sure you are healthy. They will take eggs from your sister and implant them into your uterus. You %26amp; your sis will have to go on birth control pills so that your cycles are exactly the same. After that you take care of yourself in the same way as you did when you were pregnant before.
PS - Speaking as a sister, I think it is wonderful that you willing to do this for her.
have you ever been pregnant? well i think you must have some experience of being pregnant and then you can be a surrogate...good luckWhat does it take to be a surrogate mother?
You need a healthy reproductive system and the willingness to go through a pregnancy for someone else.
Wow, I really wouldn't do it if I were you. It's gotta be incredibly hard to give up a baby that grew inside of you and if you are giving it to a relative that means you'll be around the child all the time. The physical toll is one thing but that could really tear you up inside emotionally.
I think it is noble of you to consider helping your sister like that but think really hard about it. Maybe there are other ways you can help her - like assisting her looking for an adoption.
you must be healthy and want to do everything possible to have the best pregnancy taking all your vitamins and also being able to accept all the battle scars after the flabby pouch that never goes away after gaining 40-60lbs the strechmarks you will have for life after and many other emotions that go along with being pregnant so if you are strong willed then you can do this and i think it is a great gift good luck
I think you have to be able to know that you are carrying someone else's baby and you can't get attached, they say a lot of surrogate moters end up getting attached and then there are problems, but being your sister that shouldn't be a problem, you both will have to go to the doctors and they will do the implantation.
talk about it with your doctor before you get her hopes up and just see what (if any) requirements there are to be considered a good candidate. it will probably be expensive though since implantation of embryos is around $25,000 (my friend had it done a few years ago) and i'm not totally sure how the insurance works around that since it is a voluntary thing, not a medically necessasary thing. i would just do some research and ask your own doctor and insurance provider about it before making any decisions. good luck!!
there is a lot of responsibilitys to go through to become a surrogate mother
I think that you are a great perosn to even think about this. I would do it for my sister if she couldn't carry a full term healthy pregnancy. I am not sure what all the requirement are but if you were to call your gynocologist and ask them I am sure that they may be able to point you in the right direction. When you do find out the right answers to this email me or IM me and let me know, please.
You will have to go through counseling to make sure you can handle carrying a child for nine months, then hand him over to his parents. You will need a physical, to make sure you are healthy. There will be some papers drawn up that everybody involved will have to sign. I'm not sure what the requirements are in your state, but you will probably have to be over 21. After all that, you will have to have a procedure done to become pregnant.
This is a serious decision, one you have obviously thought out. Your sister is lucky to have you. Good luck, and God bless you!
i work with a woman who has a son who's wife cannot have children so her cousin carried a baby for her (she had 2 kid's already ) she waited 15 year's for a baby and no they didn't have to have sex , they talk openly about it, would you like me to ask ? if you would like you may e- mail me
obviously your sister can produce children but not Carry them so a fertilized egg from your sister will be implanted in you you will actually be carrying your sisters child for her it will be hers in every aspect you will be lending your womb to carry it and provide nutrition for it I suggest that the both of you speak to a therapist specializing in this field so you know whats to be expected and what to look forward to if you do go ahead with this and decide this is whats best just go into with understanding that this will be your niece or nephew and by all means do it legally with a lawyer so there is no problems arising in the future and your sisters insurance may even cover the costs I wish you and your family the best what ever it is you decide to do
I think that what they do is take sperm from the father and an egg from the mother and after combining them in a lab (test tube baby) they put it into you and away you go for the next nine months. I don't think there is any actual requirements to being a surrogate mother, but you may want to draw up some sort of contract between you and your sister and brother-in-law before you go through with it. I would talk to a doctor and a lawyer before I mentioned it to your sister to see where you stand.
As a surrogate mother, would I have to provide my own medical insurance?
I am in discussion to become a surrogate mother for a couple and was needing to provide my own medical coverage. Any answers are appreciated.As a surrogate mother, would I have to provide my own medical insurance?
It depends entirely on your contract with the parents. If you're considering this, you should probably have a lawyer help you with YOUR side.
Keep in mind, THEY should be paying for all your pregnancy and birth expenses. Many times, you'd want THEM to carry insurance to cover YOU, if something went seriously wrong with the birth, requiring you to need a whole bunch more medical care.
Lastly, you won't be able to buy any kind of private insurance that covers pregnancy, let alone surrogacy pregnancy, thanks to the health reform act. So if they're trying to make YOU carry all the insurance . . . find a different couple.
You'll want to figure that out in advance and if you CAN become pregnant then it's pretty foolish for you to not ALREADY have it assuming it's available in your state (private insurance with maternity coverage that is...you should already have health insurance).
All the companies that had maternity in my state still have maternity now because maternity is mandatory in my state.As a surrogate mother, would I have to provide my own medical insurance?
That is all part of the negotiation process you have with those people you are surrogating for. It is not uncommon to ask them to pay all medical bills related to the pregnancy because it is their baby.
You will not be able to buy an individual policy for surrogate pregnancy. The COUPLE should be footing all of the cost. You need to insist on that.
That is something that needs to be disscussed they should provide it since you are doing them a favor.
It depends entirely on your contract with the parents. If you're considering this, you should probably have a lawyer help you with YOUR side.
Keep in mind, THEY should be paying for all your pregnancy and birth expenses. Many times, you'd want THEM to carry insurance to cover YOU, if something went seriously wrong with the birth, requiring you to need a whole bunch more medical care.
Lastly, you won't be able to buy any kind of private insurance that covers pregnancy, let alone surrogacy pregnancy, thanks to the health reform act. So if they're trying to make YOU carry all the insurance . . . find a different couple.
You'll want to figure that out in advance and if you CAN become pregnant then it's pretty foolish for you to not ALREADY have it assuming it's available in your state (private insurance with maternity coverage that is...you should already have health insurance).
All the companies that had maternity in my state still have maternity now because maternity is mandatory in my state.As a surrogate mother, would I have to provide my own medical insurance?
That is all part of the negotiation process you have with those people you are surrogating for. It is not uncommon to ask them to pay all medical bills related to the pregnancy because it is their baby.
You will not be able to buy an individual policy for surrogate pregnancy. The COUPLE should be footing all of the cost. You need to insist on that.
That is something that needs to be disscussed they should provide it since you are doing them a favor.
Is it possible to transplant a fertilized egg to surrogate mother?
I take a pro-life stance instead of pro-choice stance w.r.t abortion. Girls have abortions because the pregnancy is unplanned and sudden. Now, if instead of abortion, the eggs could be carefully removed and transplanted to a willing surrogate mother, can we save the child? The child so born could be adopted by anybody.Is it possible to transplant a fertilized egg to surrogate mother?
That would be a wonderful thing but it is not possible. Once the egg has fertilized it embeds into the uterine lining and cannot be moved. If an embryo (fertilized egg) was created in a lab via IVF then the embryo and be transferred to a surrogate.
I don't think that can be done yet. In cases where a fertilized egg is used by a surrogate the eggs are fertilized in a lab and then implanted only to the surrogate.
In most unwanted pregnancy cases the pregnancy isn't even discovered until the embryo is well under way on the path of development before it is even discovered so it's not really a viable way to circumvent abortions.
In my opinion the best way to prevent abortions of unwanted pregnancies would be to appeal to young women on a charitable level to complete pregnancies so couples who desperately want children can adopt them.Is it possible to transplant a fertilized egg to surrogate mother?
i think it may be possible in the future but at this point i don't think it's possible to remove an egg that has been fertilized and implanted in one uterus to another without damaging it.
not possible, the pregnancy would not survive the transplant.google translations deathly hallows part 2 trailer
That would be a wonderful thing but it is not possible. Once the egg has fertilized it embeds into the uterine lining and cannot be moved. If an embryo (fertilized egg) was created in a lab via IVF then the embryo and be transferred to a surrogate.
I don't think that can be done yet. In cases where a fertilized egg is used by a surrogate the eggs are fertilized in a lab and then implanted only to the surrogate.
In most unwanted pregnancy cases the pregnancy isn't even discovered until the embryo is well under way on the path of development before it is even discovered so it's not really a viable way to circumvent abortions.
In my opinion the best way to prevent abortions of unwanted pregnancies would be to appeal to young women on a charitable level to complete pregnancies so couples who desperately want children can adopt them.Is it possible to transplant a fertilized egg to surrogate mother?
i think it may be possible in the future but at this point i don't think it's possible to remove an egg that has been fertilized and implanted in one uterus to another without damaging it.
not possible, the pregnancy would not survive the transplant.
Surrogate mothers (bio class)?
What are 2-3 reasons why a woman and/or couple would use the services of a surrogate mother?Surrogate mothers (bio class)?
1)The woman may have a hormonal problem that interferes with her being able to carry a pregnancy to term, such as an inability to produce enough progesterone.
2) She may have had to have an early hysterectomy or may have an "inhospitable uterus" because of cancer, trauma, or large fibroids.
3) She may have other medical issues which make carrying a pregnancy to term a life threatening condition - such as serious cardiac disease, a history of liver or heart transplant, or blood clotting problem like severe hemophilia.
The woman may still be able to produce her own eggs and may only need a surrogate for the pregnancy part. Or she may also have an issue with producing eggs - so then she would need an egg donor as well as a surrogate.Surrogate mothers (bio class)?
The woman is unable to carry a child to term due to weak cervix/uterus.
The woman is too old to bear children.
The couple has reproductive problems.
1)The woman may have a hormonal problem that interferes with her being able to carry a pregnancy to term, such as an inability to produce enough progesterone.
2) She may have had to have an early hysterectomy or may have an "inhospitable uterus" because of cancer, trauma, or large fibroids.
3) She may have other medical issues which make carrying a pregnancy to term a life threatening condition - such as serious cardiac disease, a history of liver or heart transplant, or blood clotting problem like severe hemophilia.
The woman may still be able to produce her own eggs and may only need a surrogate for the pregnancy part. Or she may also have an issue with producing eggs - so then she would need an egg donor as well as a surrogate.Surrogate mothers (bio class)?
The woman is unable to carry a child to term due to weak cervix/uterus.
The woman is too old to bear children.
The couple has reproductive problems.
Can i get an example of this....(surrogate mothers)?
can i get a contemporary example of a surrogate mother storyyyyy?Can i get an example of this....(surrogate mothers)?
Artificial insemination (AI): The surrogate is artificially inseminated with the sperm from the husband of the couple. The child is genetically related to the surrogate. The wife of the couple adopts the child via a stepparent adoption.
# In vitro fertilization/Embryo transfer (IVF/ET): An egg (or eggs) is retrieved from the wife of the couple, combined with her husband's sperm, and the resulting embryo(s) is implanted in the surrogate. The child is not genetically related to the surrogate, and the couple's names go on the original birth certificate.
# IVF/ED: In vitro fertilization with an egg donor. A donor's eggs are combined with the sperm from our client, and the resulting embryos are transferred to a surrogate. The child is not genetically related to the surrogate, and only the male's name goes on the birth certificate. If married, the wife of the couple then adopts the child, as with the AI procedure.
# Artificial Insemination by Donor (AID): The surrogate is artificially inseminated with donor sperm, because both the husband and the wife of the couple are infertile. The child is genetically related to the surrogate, and both the husband and wife must adopt it.
# Egg Donor (ED): The "surrogate" donates an egg (or eggs) which is fertilized with the husband's sperm, and the embryo is then transferred to his wife. The child is genetically related to the surrogate, but because the wife delivers the child, she does not need to adopt it. This is sort of a reverse surrogacy.
I don't have any stories...sorry
Artificial insemination (AI): The surrogate is artificially inseminated with the sperm from the husband of the couple. The child is genetically related to the surrogate. The wife of the couple adopts the child via a stepparent adoption.
# In vitro fertilization/Embryo transfer (IVF/ET): An egg (or eggs) is retrieved from the wife of the couple, combined with her husband's sperm, and the resulting embryo(s) is implanted in the surrogate. The child is not genetically related to the surrogate, and the couple's names go on the original birth certificate.
# IVF/ED: In vitro fertilization with an egg donor. A donor's eggs are combined with the sperm from our client, and the resulting embryos are transferred to a surrogate. The child is not genetically related to the surrogate, and only the male's name goes on the birth certificate. If married, the wife of the couple then adopts the child, as with the AI procedure.
# Artificial Insemination by Donor (AID): The surrogate is artificially inseminated with donor sperm, because both the husband and the wife of the couple are infertile. The child is genetically related to the surrogate, and both the husband and wife must adopt it.
# Egg Donor (ED): The "surrogate" donates an egg (or eggs) which is fertilized with the husband's sperm, and the embryo is then transferred to his wife. The child is genetically related to the surrogate, but because the wife delivers the child, she does not need to adopt it. This is sort of a reverse surrogacy.
I don't have any stories...sorry
Surrogate mothers your opinion on the topic?
What a woman does with her body should be no concern of the government. If she wants to sell her womb to another couple (or just donate the use of it), she should be able to.Surrogate mothers your opinion on the topic?
I'd prefer to see people adopting (I was adopted), but I can't fault people for wanting to have children of their own. Surrogate mothers enable couples to have children that would otherwise not be able to do so. And I must say I admire the woman who will go through the time and discomfort of carrying someone else's kid!
I'd prefer to see people adopting (I was adopted), but I can't fault people for wanting to have children of their own. Surrogate mothers enable couples to have children that would otherwise not be able to do so. And I must say I admire the woman who will go through the time and discomfort of carrying someone else's kid!
How much does it cost to use a surrogate mother?
I would love to have a child but i do not want to give birth myself. I was just wondering how much it would be to use a surrogate mother/How much does it cost to use a surrogate mother?
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it really depends on how much the surrogate wants. the girl i know who was a surrogate got payed 25000 to do it, and they covered all of her medical expenses and payed for everything she needed while pregnant so she didn't have to work. however, there are some people that will do it for a family member for nothing. after i had my son i was going to carry a baby for my brother and his ex gf (they were together for liek, 5 years). she had to have a hysterectomy at a young age, but she still had her ovaries so she still produced eggs. so it was going to me her eggs and his sperm, and i was basically going to be an incubator. but then it never happened.How much does it cost to use a surrogate mother?
This is an investment for sure. To remove your egg %26amp; 'plant' it in a surrogate is around $8000. For that woman to carry the egg over 9 months, you need to cover all medical costs, legal costs, and her costs (they generally 'charge $30000. for their time). By the time the baby arrives, it should total you about $125,000., including a $10000. delivery charge for the actual birth.
Surrogates can cost anywhere between $25,000 all the way up to $80,000
So it is very pricey..
I dont Know
it really depends on how much the surrogate wants. the girl i know who was a surrogate got payed 25000 to do it, and they covered all of her medical expenses and payed for everything she needed while pregnant so she didn't have to work. however, there are some people that will do it for a family member for nothing. after i had my son i was going to carry a baby for my brother and his ex gf (they were together for liek, 5 years). she had to have a hysterectomy at a young age, but she still had her ovaries so she still produced eggs. so it was going to me her eggs and his sperm, and i was basically going to be an incubator. but then it never happened.How much does it cost to use a surrogate mother?
This is an investment for sure. To remove your egg %26amp; 'plant' it in a surrogate is around $8000. For that woman to carry the egg over 9 months, you need to cover all medical costs, legal costs, and her costs (they generally 'charge $30000. for their time). By the time the baby arrives, it should total you about $125,000., including a $10000. delivery charge for the actual birth.
Surrogates can cost anywhere between $25,000 all the way up to $80,000
So it is very pricey..
What is the term called when two males have a baby together from a surrogate mother?
If two males were to have a baby from a surrogate mother, is it possible to extract the surrogate mother's genes from one of her embryos and replacing it with one of the males sperm genes inside the embryo, while having one of the other males fertilizing it?What is the term called when two males have a baby together from a surrogate mother?
I don't think there's a "term" for it other than a gay couple having a baby using a surrogate. So far, to create an embryo you need sperm and an egg, so it's impossible for two women or two men to conceive a child. For two gay men, it would involve egg donation and IVF (in-Vitro fertilization), and a surrogate. They don't usually recommend the egg donor and the surrogate be the same person. It's too risky that she'll get attached to the baby.
Not yet, but I am sure someone is working on it.What is the term called when two males have a baby together from a surrogate mother?
A surrogate mother means that she is carrying and having the baby for two people, regardless of sex. If 2 men wanted a baby and used a woman's egg and one of the male's sperm then it would have both genetic make ups of those people. If they used another woman's egg and one of the male's sperm, it would have that genetic make up but not that of the surrogate mother. You cannot have 2 males fertilizing the same egg.
I don't think so. I've never heard of doing that. There could possibly be a lot of problems with doing that as well.
But it will still be called both of yours child regardless and thats what you should treat it as. It's still the result of you and your partner trying to make a baby even though you actually didn't make it with eachother.
The term is 'parents'. In your second question, it is not possible to extract genes and replace them with others. At best, in any gay couple, only one can be biologically related to the child.
I'm not sure that there is a term for it.. There may be a term for that on urbandictionary.com
But I will say that two dads are better than none!
No, it's biologically not possible to combine the genes from two males (or from two females, for that matter). There's a process called genomic imprinting which makes that kind of thing impossible.
What that means is, your genes "know" whether you're a male or a female, and there are lethal factors built into your genetic makeup to prevent you from reproducing with a member of the same sex. It's closely related to your body's need to prevent you from being able to self-fertilize yourself. Imagine what would happen if your sperm cells could combine together while they were still inside your body and start growing into a baby, or if a woman's egg cells did something like that.
If you tried to combine genes with another male, you'd almost certainly never succeed in conceiving, and if by some rare chance you did then the embryo would die almost immediately, within a few cell divisions. It can't be changed and it can't be helped, I'm afraid.
Sorry, you can't do that. Interesting idea, but you can't do that. The DNA from the embryo will be the surrogate mother's or donor egg's DNA.publishing companies black ops zombie maps
I don't think there's a "term" for it other than a gay couple having a baby using a surrogate. So far, to create an embryo you need sperm and an egg, so it's impossible for two women or two men to conceive a child. For two gay men, it would involve egg donation and IVF (in-Vitro fertilization), and a surrogate. They don't usually recommend the egg donor and the surrogate be the same person. It's too risky that she'll get attached to the baby.
Not yet, but I am sure someone is working on it.What is the term called when two males have a baby together from a surrogate mother?
A surrogate mother means that she is carrying and having the baby for two people, regardless of sex. If 2 men wanted a baby and used a woman's egg and one of the male's sperm then it would have both genetic make ups of those people. If they used another woman's egg and one of the male's sperm, it would have that genetic make up but not that of the surrogate mother. You cannot have 2 males fertilizing the same egg.
I don't think so. I've never heard of doing that. There could possibly be a lot of problems with doing that as well.
But it will still be called both of yours child regardless and thats what you should treat it as. It's still the result of you and your partner trying to make a baby even though you actually didn't make it with eachother.
The term is 'parents'. In your second question, it is not possible to extract genes and replace them with others. At best, in any gay couple, only one can be biologically related to the child.
I'm not sure that there is a term for it.. There may be a term for that on urbandictionary.com
But I will say that two dads are better than none!
No, it's biologically not possible to combine the genes from two males (or from two females, for that matter). There's a process called genomic imprinting which makes that kind of thing impossible.
What that means is, your genes "know" whether you're a male or a female, and there are lethal factors built into your genetic makeup to prevent you from reproducing with a member of the same sex. It's closely related to your body's need to prevent you from being able to self-fertilize yourself. Imagine what would happen if your sperm cells could combine together while they were still inside your body and start growing into a baby, or if a woman's egg cells did something like that.
If you tried to combine genes with another male, you'd almost certainly never succeed in conceiving, and if by some rare chance you did then the embryo would die almost immediately, within a few cell divisions. It can't be changed and it can't be helped, I'm afraid.
Sorry, you can't do that. Interesting idea, but you can't do that. The DNA from the embryo will be the surrogate mother's or donor egg's DNA.
Surrogate mothers question?
ok lolll don't laugh!
i really really really really want to be a surrogate mum!
like i'm so passionate about it, i just really want to help other families who can't have their own children.
how do i get into it? i'm only 16 LOL....obviously i wont start now, but how do i get into it?Surrogate mothers question?
You need to be at least 21 in the United States; I cannot imagine it to be too much younger in the UK. You also need to have given birth to at least one child of your own to qualify.
After that, probably the easiest thing in your country would be to work with one of the agencies there.Surrogate mothers question?
I looked into it in the states once, and there are companies here that can do that. i live in the country and my nearest center was 2 states over. they have pre reqs. you have to have already had minimum 1 full term pregnancy. they want to make sure you can carry a baby first. then they write up a contract with you and the actual parents. its very controversial though, because a lot of times the surrogate mother becomes attached and wants to keep the baby. and in one case, the surrogate was carrying twins and the parents only wanted 1 baby so the mum was stuck with the other even though she didnt want it.
if you really want to, first you have to have your own baby.
i really really really really want to be a surrogate mum!
like i'm so passionate about it, i just really want to help other families who can't have their own children.
how do i get into it? i'm only 16 LOL....obviously i wont start now, but how do i get into it?Surrogate mothers question?
You need to be at least 21 in the United States; I cannot imagine it to be too much younger in the UK. You also need to have given birth to at least one child of your own to qualify.
After that, probably the easiest thing in your country would be to work with one of the agencies there.Surrogate mothers question?
I looked into it in the states once, and there are companies here that can do that. i live in the country and my nearest center was 2 states over. they have pre reqs. you have to have already had minimum 1 full term pregnancy. they want to make sure you can carry a baby first. then they write up a contract with you and the actual parents. its very controversial though, because a lot of times the surrogate mother becomes attached and wants to keep the baby. and in one case, the surrogate was carrying twins and the parents only wanted 1 baby so the mum was stuck with the other even though she didnt want it.
if you really want to, first you have to have your own baby.
Whats the oldest you can be to be a surrogate mother through an agency and how much do you get paid?
do these mothers without using your own eggs make a profit or is against the law?Whats the oldest you can be to be a surrogate mother through an agency and how much do you get paid?
nothing is against the law when not only a child is involved but money im sure it happends every day people are greedy im not sure about the laws but i had a friend whos parents paid another lady like 50k
nothing is against the law when not only a child is involved but money im sure it happends every day people are greedy im not sure about the laws but i had a friend whos parents paid another lady like 50k
How can I become a surrogate mother?
I don't have any kids, but I would like to become a surrogate mother. I am 18 and I do still live with my parents but I have a stable place of living. I don't have a job. I would like to help someone have a child. I don't know of any programs in southern california, Does anyone have any suggestions? Has anyone gone through any programs that would take me as a surrogate? How can I go about thing?How can I become a surrogate mother?
Yes. I have a suggestion. And please understand that I say this with the kindest possible intentions. PLEASE reconsider. Your body and hormones change during pregnancy and they will change your mind. Giving up that baby at such a young age will tear you apart. It will be the hardest thing you ever do and affect your life forever. I speak from experience. I never wanted kids, got pregnant at 18, gave the baby up to a fantastic, loving home... and broke. It broke my heart. Letting her go was nearly impossible. Please wait til you are older to make such a wonderful, generous, self destructive sacrifice.
I agree with Summer. Especially since the pregnancy you would have would be your first pregnancy. it would be heart breaking to give that baby up. Your first pregnancy is special in its own way. Knowing you are bringing your first child into the world. If you had someone elses baby as your first pregnancy for me I would be too attached to the baby because I would be experiencing something new with the child and in reality it actually isn't mine. For me it would tear me apart if I had to do that. Wait until after you have a couple of your own children to do something selfless as what you want to do. Obviously I nor anyone else can't stop you if you want to do this but definitely put some thought into it first. Do you really want to have someone elses child during your first pregnancy? Can you give the baby up when it is time? Are you emotionally fit to do so?How can I become a surrogate mother?
A person came to Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said: Who among the people is most deserving my companionship (of a kind treatment from me?) He said: Your mother. He, again, said: Then who (is the next one)? He said: It is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you). He said: Then who (is the next one)? He (the Holy Prophet) said: It is your mother. He (again) said: Then who? Thereupon he (The Prophet (peace be upon him)) said: It is your father.
http://youtu.be/PInPedCLGFo
Yes. I have a suggestion. And please understand that I say this with the kindest possible intentions. PLEASE reconsider. Your body and hormones change during pregnancy and they will change your mind. Giving up that baby at such a young age will tear you apart. It will be the hardest thing you ever do and affect your life forever. I speak from experience. I never wanted kids, got pregnant at 18, gave the baby up to a fantastic, loving home... and broke. It broke my heart. Letting her go was nearly impossible. Please wait til you are older to make such a wonderful, generous, self destructive sacrifice.
I agree with Summer. Especially since the pregnancy you would have would be your first pregnancy. it would be heart breaking to give that baby up. Your first pregnancy is special in its own way. Knowing you are bringing your first child into the world. If you had someone elses baby as your first pregnancy for me I would be too attached to the baby because I would be experiencing something new with the child and in reality it actually isn't mine. For me it would tear me apart if I had to do that. Wait until after you have a couple of your own children to do something selfless as what you want to do. Obviously I nor anyone else can't stop you if you want to do this but definitely put some thought into it first. Do you really want to have someone elses child during your first pregnancy? Can you give the baby up when it is time? Are you emotionally fit to do so?How can I become a surrogate mother?
A person came to Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said: Who among the people is most deserving my companionship (of a kind treatment from me?) He said: Your mother. He, again, said: Then who (is the next one)? He said: It is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you). He said: Then who (is the next one)? He (the Holy Prophet) said: It is your mother. He (again) said: Then who? Thereupon he (The Prophet (peace be upon him)) said: It is your father.
http://youtu.be/PInPedCLGFo
How women out there have been a surrogate mother?
My wife was talking with her best friend and suggested that she would be a surrogate mother for us. What were are wondering what are somethings that we need to know? Costs?(most insurance plans do not cover this) Legal issues? Physical, emotional and mental support? We had never considered looking or having someone be a surrogate for us. Please can someone help us, thanks.How women out there have been a surrogate mother?
Phobe did it for her brother and Kitty from that 70's show
The problem is the surrogate at the end get so emotional with the unborn, that might refuse to give it up.How women out there have been a surrogate mother?
It would be in your best interest to look elsewhere for a surrogate instead of one of your friends - that is just to close and personal and it could result in alot of emotional damage for all parties including the baby! I'm sure your friend is trying to look out for the interest of all-but it just won't work! Good luck-I hope you make the right decision!
Hard to say without getting to know all of you. There was a story on "A Baby Story" where a gay couple wanted a baby and so one of the men had a sister who was a surrogate. She expressed sadness at not being able to keep the baby, but that she was happy she could help her brother. The secret to their success was that they all lived close to each other and so there wasn't any real separation of the child from any of the parents.
If it came to legal blows, the father would have rights, but the mother would be an issue. Generally the baby belongs to whoever gave birth to it.
Check out this site.
Phobe did it for her brother and Kitty from that 70's show
The problem is the surrogate at the end get so emotional with the unborn, that might refuse to give it up.How women out there have been a surrogate mother?
It would be in your best interest to look elsewhere for a surrogate instead of one of your friends - that is just to close and personal and it could result in alot of emotional damage for all parties including the baby! I'm sure your friend is trying to look out for the interest of all-but it just won't work! Good luck-I hope you make the right decision!
Hard to say without getting to know all of you. There was a story on "A Baby Story" where a gay couple wanted a baby and so one of the men had a sister who was a surrogate. She expressed sadness at not being able to keep the baby, but that she was happy she could help her brother. The secret to their success was that they all lived close to each other and so there wasn't any real separation of the child from any of the parents.
If it came to legal blows, the father would have rights, but the mother would be an issue. Generally the baby belongs to whoever gave birth to it.
Check out this site.
How women out there have been a surrogate mother?
My wife was talking with her best friend and suggested that she would be a surrogate mother for us. What were are wondering what are somethings that we need to know? Costs?(most insurance plans do not cover this) Legal issues? Physical, emotional and mental support? We had never considered looking or having someone be a surrogate for us. Please can someone help us, thanks.How women out there have been a surrogate mother?
You would need an attorney to handle "custody" issues.
The best friend may require money from you and your wife to help pay for Dr's visits or she may not since its a friendship.
I would do a search on line and ask mother who have done this how the whole process works.How women out there have been a surrogate mother?
Interesting question and I have not been a surrogate mother but I noticed you didn't ask about moral issues at all - only legal, physical and emotional.
Have you considered that it might be wrong for you to inseminate a woman you are not married to simply because you insist on having a child that is biologically yours?
What makes you a father is not where your baby comes from, but how you take care of that baby. With so many wonderful and beautiful children waiting to be adopted, I pray that you and your wife will look elsewhere and not do this un-natural thing.broadview security fazolis
You would need an attorney to handle "custody" issues.
The best friend may require money from you and your wife to help pay for Dr's visits or she may not since its a friendship.
I would do a search on line and ask mother who have done this how the whole process works.How women out there have been a surrogate mother?
Interesting question and I have not been a surrogate mother but I noticed you didn't ask about moral issues at all - only legal, physical and emotional.
Have you considered that it might be wrong for you to inseminate a woman you are not married to simply because you insist on having a child that is biologically yours?
What makes you a father is not where your baby comes from, but how you take care of that baby. With so many wonderful and beautiful children waiting to be adopted, I pray that you and your wife will look elsewhere and not do this un-natural thing.
Has anyone ever heard of the surrogate mom keeping the baby after birth?
My husband and I are american but can't have kids. We are going to a clinic in India and the surrogate mother will have our baby. My husband will be the donor. We are afraid of the mother keeping the baby. Has any indian surrogate mothers kept the american baby after birth?Has anyone ever heard of the surrogate mom keeping the baby after birth?
I think I'd rethink that.
Thing is that the baby will be hers and your husband's. She as the mother, will have custody rights and she could well change her mind. Who knows what Indian law says about this, but I think it's pretty safe to bet that any kid born in India, to an Indian woman, is going to be an Indian citizen, and if it goes through he courts, you guys are likely to lose!
If I were looking for a surrogate, it would be here in the states, in a state that is favorable to FATHERS and has a history of court rulings regarding surrogacy and contract law concerning it.
I would never go outside my own country.
i would recommend doing so with legal actions which will prevent that from happening. here's a story about an american surrogate mother keeping the baby after birth: http://www.news4jax.com/news/13378251/de鈥?/a>
it can happen. good luck!Has anyone ever heard of the surrogate mom keeping the baby after birth?
I think Tracey makes a really good point.
Surrogacy is difficult, let alone international surrogacy. You have to take both countries laws into consideration. It's a very touchy subject.
I would find a surrogate much closer to home.
You need not to worry, u can even have a legal agreement with the girl, so, that she cannot keep your baby by any means. Dont be afraid, u wont get any problem if u hire any surrogate nother here in India. I am from India (New Delhi), I can assist u if u require. Good Luck.
I think I'd rethink that.
Thing is that the baby will be hers and your husband's. She as the mother, will have custody rights and she could well change her mind. Who knows what Indian law says about this, but I think it's pretty safe to bet that any kid born in India, to an Indian woman, is going to be an Indian citizen, and if it goes through he courts, you guys are likely to lose!
If I were looking for a surrogate, it would be here in the states, in a state that is favorable to FATHERS and has a history of court rulings regarding surrogacy and contract law concerning it.
I would never go outside my own country.
i would recommend doing so with legal actions which will prevent that from happening. here's a story about an american surrogate mother keeping the baby after birth: http://www.news4jax.com/news/13378251/de鈥?/a>
it can happen. good luck!Has anyone ever heard of the surrogate mom keeping the baby after birth?
I think Tracey makes a really good point.
Surrogacy is difficult, let alone international surrogacy. You have to take both countries laws into consideration. It's a very touchy subject.
I would find a surrogate much closer to home.
You need not to worry, u can even have a legal agreement with the girl, so, that she cannot keep your baby by any means. Dont be afraid, u wont get any problem if u hire any surrogate nother here in India. I am from India (New Delhi), I can assist u if u require. Good Luck.
How to become a surrogate mother in the UK?
I would like to help childless couples to have a child and would like to offer myself as a surrogate mother? Where can I register?How to become a surrogate mother in the UK?
let me leave with you something a friend told me:
Surrogacy is NEVER in the best interests of the person who is created in these circumstances.
How can it be anything other than damaging for a newborn baby to be separated after birth from the only person it knows..it's mother?!? Nature does not intend that a child be taken from its mother within minutes, hours, days or weeks of its birth. This is the critical time of "bonding"; the very foundation-stone of physical and emotional wellbeing in the life of the human child.
Sometimes, through death, abandonment (or adoption)....a child loses its mother. Hopefully its father is able to protect and nurture it...with support from family and friends. A newborn child, (whose mother has died or disappeared), is vulnerable and grieving for its profound loss. I would recommend that you read Nancy Verrier's work "The Primal Wound" for a deeper understanding of the effects of separation on mother and baby.
It is becoming increasingly acceptable to "create" a child through IVF surrogacy arrangements. This requires two women to contribute/participate in the child's conception through ova donation and gestational surrogacy. Perhaps people who embark on this process believe that a child will not experience loss because neither the genetic nor gestational mother are
"wholly" connected to the child. I think that a child created in these circumstances will feel a very deep sense of loss that it does not have a "whole" mother in its life.
Do read Nancy Verrier......she will illuminate your way as you ponder these profoundly important issues.
yes it is legal in theuk.
i run a uk surro m,essage board and support forum with a surro.
come check us outon www.uksurrogatefamiliesonline.鈥?br>
we welcome surrogates,hopeful surrogates and intended parents and thier families.
come chat to our resident surrogate on www.uksurrogatefamiliesonline.鈥?br>
surrogacy is legal in the uk,she has just completed her 2nd journey.
i think your best bet is the net it may take some time to get the information needed but good luck
Firstly I think its very kind and generous of you think about doing this for a childless couple but please be aware that this is not an easy process. The emotional trauma to yourself and to your family cannot be under estimated. This doesnt just affect you it affects everyone in your life. You will be carefully vetted by any of the organisations out there who deal in surrogacy and this does involve some psychological assessment. Also in the UK it is illegal to accept payment for this service but you will be paid expenses ie trips to the antenatal clinic/hospital , maternity clothes etc.
I suggest you check out the internet for useful information - Ive posted a few here to get you started.
Once again , I do hope that this all goes well for you - what you are thinking of doing is not only life changing for you but also for the childless couple you will help.
Chris Midwife
Agreed, Surrogacy is illegal in the UK especially if money is involved.
i am sure it is illegal in the UK
let me leave with you something a friend told me:
Surrogacy is NEVER in the best interests of the person who is created in these circumstances.
How can it be anything other than damaging for a newborn baby to be separated after birth from the only person it knows..it's mother?!? Nature does not intend that a child be taken from its mother within minutes, hours, days or weeks of its birth. This is the critical time of "bonding"; the very foundation-stone of physical and emotional wellbeing in the life of the human child.
Sometimes, through death, abandonment (or adoption)....a child loses its mother. Hopefully its father is able to protect and nurture it...with support from family and friends. A newborn child, (whose mother has died or disappeared), is vulnerable and grieving for its profound loss. I would recommend that you read Nancy Verrier's work "The Primal Wound" for a deeper understanding of the effects of separation on mother and baby.
It is becoming increasingly acceptable to "create" a child through IVF surrogacy arrangements. This requires two women to contribute/participate in the child's conception through ova donation and gestational surrogacy. Perhaps people who embark on this process believe that a child will not experience loss because neither the genetic nor gestational mother are
"wholly" connected to the child. I think that a child created in these circumstances will feel a very deep sense of loss that it does not have a "whole" mother in its life.
Do read Nancy Verrier......she will illuminate your way as you ponder these profoundly important issues.
yes it is legal in theuk.
i run a uk surro m,essage board and support forum with a surro.
come check us outon www.uksurrogatefamiliesonline.鈥?br>
we welcome surrogates,hopeful surrogates and intended parents and thier families.
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How to become a surrogate mother in the UK?come chat to our resident surrogate on www.uksurrogatefamiliesonline.鈥?br>
surrogacy is legal in the uk,she has just completed her 2nd journey.
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i think your best bet is the net it may take some time to get the information needed but good luck
Firstly I think its very kind and generous of you think about doing this for a childless couple but please be aware that this is not an easy process. The emotional trauma to yourself and to your family cannot be under estimated. This doesnt just affect you it affects everyone in your life. You will be carefully vetted by any of the organisations out there who deal in surrogacy and this does involve some psychological assessment. Also in the UK it is illegal to accept payment for this service but you will be paid expenses ie trips to the antenatal clinic/hospital , maternity clothes etc.
I suggest you check out the internet for useful information - Ive posted a few here to get you started.
Once again , I do hope that this all goes well for you - what you are thinking of doing is not only life changing for you but also for the childless couple you will help.
Chris Midwife
Agreed, Surrogacy is illegal in the UK especially if money is involved.
i am sure it is illegal in the UK
Question about Surrogacy. (surrogate mothers)?
OKay suppose you are not infertile and just don't want to go through the "joys" of pregnancy, the clinic or wherever will help you find a surrogate mother. But instead of using an eg donor, can you use your own eggs. What is the estimated costs?Question about Surrogacy. (surrogate mothers)?
Your looking at the drug and harvesting egg cost, In vitro fertilization implantation costs, lab costs, etc... Aprox 7,000 to 15,000. Surrogacy will set you back a minimum of 20,000 without medical costs agency fees court costs...
All in it will cost you a child's college fund.http://www.angelmatcher.com/projected_su鈥?/a>
very expensive. I know people have spent 10's of thousands of dollars on things like that.Question about Surrogacy. (surrogate mothers)?
your looking at $15000.00 for all the stuff involved with this procedure. Yes you can use your own eggs
I am not for sure, but my friend and her hubby are going to do the same thing... (they are both fixed) and they said that the estimate they got was somewhere between 15 and 20 thousand dollars. But they were going to inplant the eggs into her. not someone else.
There are several financial obligations for someone looking to use a carrier as means of creating a family. First of all, there are clinic fees. Not only are there costs associated with the actual cycling, but there are preliminary tests involving you, your spouse, and the carrier. Depending on the comensation agreement between you and your carrier, those costs (compensation plus all the other incidental fees) can reach upwards of $30,000.
It is practically impossible to estimate what the total cost would be. If more than one cycle is required to achieve pregnancy, then the costs will be significantly higher. Most parents that created their family through gestational surrogacy will tell you that the overall financial burden can reach close to $100,000 for everything.
No matter what you decide, this is an exciting journey. Best of luck to you!
Your looking at the drug and harvesting egg cost, In vitro fertilization implantation costs, lab costs, etc... Aprox 7,000 to 15,000. Surrogacy will set you back a minimum of 20,000 without medical costs agency fees court costs...
All in it will cost you a child's college fund.http://www.angelmatcher.com/projected_su鈥?/a>
very expensive. I know people have spent 10's of thousands of dollars on things like that.Question about Surrogacy. (surrogate mothers)?
your looking at $15000.00 for all the stuff involved with this procedure. Yes you can use your own eggs
I am not for sure, but my friend and her hubby are going to do the same thing... (they are both fixed) and they said that the estimate they got was somewhere between 15 and 20 thousand dollars. But they were going to inplant the eggs into her. not someone else.
There are several financial obligations for someone looking to use a carrier as means of creating a family. First of all, there are clinic fees. Not only are there costs associated with the actual cycling, but there are preliminary tests involving you, your spouse, and the carrier. Depending on the comensation agreement between you and your carrier, those costs (compensation plus all the other incidental fees) can reach upwards of $30,000.
It is practically impossible to estimate what the total cost would be. If more than one cycle is required to achieve pregnancy, then the costs will be significantly higher. Most parents that created their family through gestational surrogacy will tell you that the overall financial burden can reach close to $100,000 for everything.
No matter what you decide, this is an exciting journey. Best of luck to you!
What would be a good title for a presentation I have to make about Surrogate Motherhood?
I have to make a powerpoint presentation about a topic about anything to do with Maternity.... I chose surrogate mothers. Its an informative presentation not a debate. I have all the information I need, I just need a good title for the first slide because thats what will get everyones attention firstWhat would be a good title for a presentation I have to make about Surrogate Motherhood?
I would go with 'The Gift of Life'What would be a good title for a presentation I have to make about Surrogate Motherhood?
Surrogacy is a controversial issue either way you put it. You should determine where you stand on the issue, and present your case. I would prefer to cause controversy to stimulate the class into discussion, you'd get an A+ if you did, and it would be meorable too.
My first slide would read
"MONEY BUYS ANYTHING, Even human beings".
And have a picture of someone handing over sum cash in one hand and recieving a baby in the other. With the mother handing over the baby with horns on her head and dollar signs in her eyes.
Yeah thats an A+ right there and thats just slide 1.
Maternity is to do with nursing the baby aint it, nothing to do with surrogacy.
I would go with 'The Gift of Life'What would be a good title for a presentation I have to make about Surrogate Motherhood?
Surrogacy is a controversial issue either way you put it. You should determine where you stand on the issue, and present your case. I would prefer to cause controversy to stimulate the class into discussion, you'd get an A+ if you did, and it would be meorable too.
My first slide would read
"MONEY BUYS ANYTHING, Even human beings".
And have a picture of someone handing over sum cash in one hand and recieving a baby in the other. With the mother handing over the baby with horns on her head and dollar signs in her eyes.
Yeah thats an A+ right there and thats just slide 1.
Maternity is to do with nursing the baby aint it, nothing to do with surrogacy.
How many embryos can they place inside a surrogate mother in Canada?
Is there a limit to how many embryos can be placed at one time here in Canada? I am going to become a gestational surrogate mother next year in the summer and I would like to know how many at one time is legal because I don't want to have a litter! Thanks.How many embryos can they place inside a surrogate mother in Canada?
Even if you do surrogacy, you still have the right to limit the potential number of babies you might carry. Keep in mind that is they implant 4, you could carry all 4 until birth. When you are speaking to couples about being their surrogate, make SURE they understand your limit on embryo transfers. I'd not do more than 3. I understand they want to maximize their chances, but like you said, human's aren't designed to carry a litter of babies!
3 is the most i would give to my surrogate. i am having her implanted in 2 months. they can divide. 1 egg can wind up as twins and so forth.
I'm in Canada and the government is actually in the process of illegalizing surrogacy in Canada.
Try these websites. They may give you more information on surrogacy in Canada.
http://dsp-psd.tpsgc.gc.ca/Collection-R/鈥?/a>
http://www.cmaj.ca/cgi/content/full/176/鈥?/a>
http://www.canadiansurrogacyoptions.com/鈥?/a>
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Even if you do surrogacy, you still have the right to limit the potential number of babies you might carry. Keep in mind that is they implant 4, you could carry all 4 until birth. When you are speaking to couples about being their surrogate, make SURE they understand your limit on embryo transfers. I'd not do more than 3. I understand they want to maximize their chances, but like you said, human's aren't designed to carry a litter of babies!
3 is the most i would give to my surrogate. i am having her implanted in 2 months. they can divide. 1 egg can wind up as twins and so forth.
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How many embryos can they place inside a surrogate mother in Canada?I'm in Canada and the government is actually in the process of illegalizing surrogacy in Canada.
Try these websites. They may give you more information on surrogacy in Canada.
http://dsp-psd.tpsgc.gc.ca/Collection-R/鈥?/a>
http://www.cmaj.ca/cgi/content/full/176/鈥?/a>
http://www.canadiansurrogacyoptions.com/鈥?/a>
http://www.canadiansurrogacyoptions.com/
http://www.canadaadopts.com/
Friday, February 24, 2012
How do you become a surrogate mother?
I live in Louisiana. I was wondering how do you become a surrogate mother and how much do you get paid for it?How do you become a surrogate mother?
if you want to be a surrogate mother then you should reserch it and find sites that give you information, surrogacy is not about the money and if thats the only reason your thinking about doing it then i wouldnt, Surrogacy is a selfless thing and is done because you want to help a couple become a family not because you want the money
I was a surrogate mother last year and i gave birth to a little girl, it was the hardest thing ive ever had to do
if you want to be a surrogate mother then you should reserch it and find sites that give you information, surrogacy is not about the money and if thats the only reason your thinking about doing it then i wouldnt, Surrogacy is a selfless thing and is done because you want to help a couple become a family not because you want the money
I was a surrogate mother last year and i gave birth to a little girl, it was the hardest thing ive ever had to do
How do you become A surrogate mother at 18?
Im 18 Years old and i would love to become a surrogate mother. I have A 14 Month old daughter. Im very healthy. I weigh 140lbs. But the only problem im having is i cant find an agency close to me that i can go to because im only 18 and you have to be 21. Does anyone know an agency that would take me in?How do you become A surrogate mother at 18?
IGNORE the last poster! I at 18 wanted to be one too....now I am 20 and FINALLY able to do it because by time I am done with all the pre-IVF things. You do have to wait, but it will be worth it. :) You might be able to even find someone locally willing to work with you (just IP's not an agency).
Sorry! It's age 21. It has to do with legal contracts and the like as well as the procedures. You do meet the other requirement though, having had at least one child of your own.
And yes, ignore the first poster.How do you become A surrogate mother at 18?
Wait until you are 21. Get some mental health care in the meantime. Something is awry for someone at 18 wanting to bear someone else's child.
IGNORE the last poster! I at 18 wanted to be one too....now I am 20 and FINALLY able to do it because by time I am done with all the pre-IVF things. You do have to wait, but it will be worth it. :) You might be able to even find someone locally willing to work with you (just IP's not an agency).
Sorry! It's age 21. It has to do with legal contracts and the like as well as the procedures. You do meet the other requirement though, having had at least one child of your own.
And yes, ignore the first poster.How do you become A surrogate mother at 18?
Wait until you are 21. Get some mental health care in the meantime. Something is awry for someone at 18 wanting to bear someone else's child.
What exactly is a gestational surrogate mother?
I had a woman answer my ? on here a minute ago saying that she was a gestational surrogate mother, what exactly is that? I would have msged her myself but I couldn't due to YA acting up.
Is it like adoption? I'm rather curious now.What exactly is a gestational surrogate mother?
a gestational surrogate mother is a person who carries a baby for another couple whom are not able to have a baby on their own. a gestational surrogate mother does not use her egg, but only uses her uterus to carry the baby. the baby is not biology related to the gestational surrogate. it is nothing like adoption.
thank you!
That is a woman that carries a baby for someone else.
She is the one who is actually pregnant.
A gestational surrogate has absolutely no biological link to the child or children she carries. Embryos are created in a lab with someone else's egg and someone else's sperm and then implanted into the uterus of the woman that will be carrying the baby/babies
I don't think it is something that I could ever do, although I think it is great when someone can. No way could I carry a baby inside me for 9 months and then give it away. I would get too attached. It would still feel like my baby I think.
Is it like adoption? I'm rather curious now.What exactly is a gestational surrogate mother?
a gestational surrogate mother is a person who carries a baby for another couple whom are not able to have a baby on their own. a gestational surrogate mother does not use her egg, but only uses her uterus to carry the baby. the baby is not biology related to the gestational surrogate. it is nothing like adoption.
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What exactly is a gestational surrogate mother?That is a woman that carries a baby for someone else.
She is the one who is actually pregnant.
A gestational surrogate has absolutely no biological link to the child or children she carries. Embryos are created in a lab with someone else's egg and someone else's sperm and then implanted into the uterus of the woman that will be carrying the baby/babies
I don't think it is something that I could ever do, although I think it is great when someone can. No way could I carry a baby inside me for 9 months and then give it away. I would get too attached. It would still feel like my baby I think.
Hospital not recording names of Surrogate mother for birth certificate purpose?
My friend has entred into a Surrogacy agreement where she will be act as a surrogate and deliver a baby of the geneitc parents.
However the difficulty which is arising is that the hospital is syaing that it will record and register only the names of the surrogate mother (who will be admitted to the hospital) and her husband as the parents of the child and would send their names to the Corporation for the purposes of birth certificate.
Hospital is not willing to accept the names of the genetic parents for any purpose.
In this case what is the option to ensure that birth certificate records the names of the genetic parent and not that of surrogate and her husband.Hospital not recording names of Surrogate mother for birth certificate purpose?
I would contact an Indian surrogate agency and ask what they do in these cases. Surrogacy is big business in India and they should have an answer for you.
"However the difficulty which is arising is that the hospital is syaing that it will record and register only the names of the surrogate mother (who will be admitted to the hospital) and her husband as the parents of the child and would send their names to the Corporation for the purposes of birth certificate. "
YES!!!!!!!!....
because despite the "wonderland world" of adoption/surrogacy et al... the REST of the sane world recognizes that the one whose junk the kids fell from is the mother for purposes of a birth certificate.
the other stuff...is all legal.
hence, because pregnancy and delivery are MEDICAL/BIOLOGICAL/PHYSICAL processes... the person who's going through those processes is recognized as the P.A.T.I.E.N.T. and the father is named via affidavit.
geez.
they will have to adopt the baby.Hospital not recording names of Surrogate mother for birth certificate purpose?
Not sure where you are, but if you are in the US, and if you are in a state that does not have laws against surrogacy, then the couple she is having the child for should get a pre-birth court order when they will present to the hospital and the hospital will have to put their names on the birth certificate. The hospital will not, and can not, put the parents' names on the birth certificate without a pre-birth court order. To get this, the attorney needs to file a motion with the court and present the contract entered into between the surrogate and the couple to the judge. Hopefully, the birth is far enough away that this can be accomplished in time. Otherwise, the couple can petition the court to have the birth certificate changed.
The "genetic parents" can apply for an amended birth certification such as that which adoptive parents get. Howevever, as they did NOT give birth to that child, as there is a woman in whose body the child resided for nine months and who went through labour to produce that child, she DID give birth to that child. So her name should be on the birth record. Their names should be on a later record that certifies that they will be the legal parents of that child. Frankly, they should also have to go through formal adoption proceedings and a DNA test because it is only on someone else's word that they know that child is theirs. Mix-ups DO happen in fertility clinics.
It depends in what state your friend is living. If she has entered into a surrogacy agreement drafted by attorneys, this process would be included in the contract. If she lives in a state where there is surrogacy legislation (such as Illinois, Cali, Florida), she can get a pre-birth order. In other states, the intended parents (IPs) will have to get a court order following delivery to have a new birth certificate issued.
Sounds like the gamete-providers will have to adopt the child from the surrogate mother and her husband. That way they can have an amended birth certificate created; and the original birth certificate will be sealed by court order. That's the way it is for all us adoptees.
Please stop to consider for 10 whole seconds what this is going to do to the child. Why would your friend agree to participate in something so gross and unnatural?
Good ... because even though the kid won't grow up without genetic mirroring (which is most definitely massively important), the kid's STILL entirely likely to suffer from "The Primal Wound" (go look it up) 'cause of losing the only thing it's ever known and loved up until the point of birth.
Unfortunately, I can't help you with the last answer to the question you asked 'cause I don't know Indian law.
Good and this is exactly how it works in the UK. It doesn't matter who the genetic parents are the surrogate mother is the lrgal mother of the baby and if she is married her husband is considered the father. A child born through this way has a right to know the truth,.
However the difficulty which is arising is that the hospital is syaing that it will record and register only the names of the surrogate mother (who will be admitted to the hospital) and her husband as the parents of the child and would send their names to the Corporation for the purposes of birth certificate.
Hospital is not willing to accept the names of the genetic parents for any purpose.
In this case what is the option to ensure that birth certificate records the names of the genetic parent and not that of surrogate and her husband.Hospital not recording names of Surrogate mother for birth certificate purpose?
I would contact an Indian surrogate agency and ask what they do in these cases. Surrogacy is big business in India and they should have an answer for you.
"However the difficulty which is arising is that the hospital is syaing that it will record and register only the names of the surrogate mother (who will be admitted to the hospital) and her husband as the parents of the child and would send their names to the Corporation for the purposes of birth certificate. "
YES!!!!!!!!....
because despite the "wonderland world" of adoption/surrogacy et al... the REST of the sane world recognizes that the one whose junk the kids fell from is the mother for purposes of a birth certificate.
the other stuff...is all legal.
hence, because pregnancy and delivery are MEDICAL/BIOLOGICAL/PHYSICAL processes... the person who's going through those processes is recognized as the P.A.T.I.E.N.T. and the father is named via affidavit.
geez.
they will have to adopt the baby.Hospital not recording names of Surrogate mother for birth certificate purpose?
Not sure where you are, but if you are in the US, and if you are in a state that does not have laws against surrogacy, then the couple she is having the child for should get a pre-birth court order when they will present to the hospital and the hospital will have to put their names on the birth certificate. The hospital will not, and can not, put the parents' names on the birth certificate without a pre-birth court order. To get this, the attorney needs to file a motion with the court and present the contract entered into between the surrogate and the couple to the judge. Hopefully, the birth is far enough away that this can be accomplished in time. Otherwise, the couple can petition the court to have the birth certificate changed.
The "genetic parents" can apply for an amended birth certification such as that which adoptive parents get. Howevever, as they did NOT give birth to that child, as there is a woman in whose body the child resided for nine months and who went through labour to produce that child, she DID give birth to that child. So her name should be on the birth record. Their names should be on a later record that certifies that they will be the legal parents of that child. Frankly, they should also have to go through formal adoption proceedings and a DNA test because it is only on someone else's word that they know that child is theirs. Mix-ups DO happen in fertility clinics.
It depends in what state your friend is living. If she has entered into a surrogacy agreement drafted by attorneys, this process would be included in the contract. If she lives in a state where there is surrogacy legislation (such as Illinois, Cali, Florida), she can get a pre-birth order. In other states, the intended parents (IPs) will have to get a court order following delivery to have a new birth certificate issued.
Sounds like the gamete-providers will have to adopt the child from the surrogate mother and her husband. That way they can have an amended birth certificate created; and the original birth certificate will be sealed by court order. That's the way it is for all us adoptees.
Please stop to consider for 10 whole seconds what this is going to do to the child. Why would your friend agree to participate in something so gross and unnatural?
Good ... because even though the kid won't grow up without genetic mirroring (which is most definitely massively important), the kid's STILL entirely likely to suffer from "The Primal Wound" (go look it up) 'cause of losing the only thing it's ever known and loved up until the point of birth.
Unfortunately, I can't help you with the last answer to the question you asked 'cause I don't know Indian law.
Good and this is exactly how it works in the UK. It doesn't matter who the genetic parents are the surrogate mother is the lrgal mother of the baby and if she is married her husband is considered the father. A child born through this way has a right to know the truth,.
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