What is your feeling about being an egg donor or surrogate mother?

Am currently pregnant with my second child but afterwards would really like to give the special gift of a child to a deserving couple by either egg donation or surrogacy. I have read about egg donors and a little on surrogate mothers. Has anyone ever done this and what was your experience like whether positive or negative.What is your feeling about being an egg donor or surrogate mother?
I just found out about egg donations and have been looking into it.. surrogating, that one I have been asked to do... and know in my heart that due to the bonding while pregnant? I could do it only for someone I was close to....I may be willing and able to "incubate" for another couple... but I could never have those ten months and not care about the baby to the point that if I did not know in my heart these were people that that would never hurt, abuse or allow harm to the baby? I would not be able to do it....



but on the flip side, to be able to help another woman who wants to be a mother, but can't.... I feel rather strongly about it....



I remember how I felt inside at 15 when I was told due to medical reasons I would never be able to conceive, or give birth.... and if some miracle happened and I did... it would kill me so the dr strongly urged back then that "if" it did happen to just abort... seven pregnancies later? he was right in that it has caused many "issues" but? I have six of the most wonderful treasures/miracles..... and if I could have had them? I would have wanted somehow to have had a child... adoption, implantation, surrogate.....



egg donation "feels" a little less personal... not wholly impersonal mind you... these are little pieces of me.. my dna... but, I would not go thru feeling the kicks, hearing the heart... listening to the baby inside... and feeling the personality develop along the way.... so, I would be able to donate those a little more blindly than the surrogating.... and another woman becomes mommy... another man... daddy....



I would still not mind surrogating..... I have been asked....husband is against it..... even though it was his sister asking.... so, if he feels that strongly against me carrying a baby for someone? I will respect that...



I am sure there is a negative to it... like the surrogating is easy... you are pregnant now you say.... how hard would it be at the end of that pregnancy to give birth.. hold your precious one... and then turn around and give him/her away to another woman? maybe I am just selfish (I AM... really) but I would have a hard time... even if the egg was not mine... and the father not my husband.... and purely because of me carrying that one around for the ten months..



with egg donating? I am still researching... doesn't seem to be a negative? maybe it is a surgery though (have not looked at what the procedure is?) theoretically, I guess if it is surgery it could be a bit harmful down the road? or affect the family if laid up?



great question! thank you for the opportunity to share!

good luck

congrats
I have thought about it, I do not feel like there is any problem with it.What is your feeling about being an egg donor or surrogate mother?
i think i could be an egg donor, but i dont think i could be a surrogate mother. i think i would get too attached to the baby and it would be too hard to let go at birth.
I Feel Its Not A Good Idea. Not To Be Mean Or Anything. You Are Part Of This Child. You Will Have Some Sort Of Feeling. Just Say You Where Some Place . And A Child Came Up To You. And That Was That Your Egg Came From.
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How old are you

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thanks :)
Well, as an experienced surrogate mother, of course I think they are GREAT!



Honestly, the decision to participate in surrogacy (whether it be as a parent or as a surrogate) is extremely difficult, but can be one of the most rewarding times in your life.



There are some instances where the arrangement does not end as planned - but those are extreme cases and happen rarely. Someone that is highly educated and informed about the process, emotions, and expectations will find this to be an exciting and personally rewarding adventure.



If you are looking to check out more information, I recommend http://www.surromomsonline.com/ They have articles, insight, classified ads, and even a message board consisting of parents, surrogates, egg donors, etc. Don't hesitate to contact me if you have any questions!
I'm a surrogate mother. It is a really neat thing to do. I love being pregnant. Now, that is the up side. You may feel as if it was a type of interview for a job. But keep in mind, YOU set the bounderies. Think about if you want someone calling you EVERYDAY (some call so many times on your cell) or once a month. Also, willing to terminate multiples (selective reduction) make that YOUR decision. Also, my IM wants to be on the cell (mine) listening in on ALL doctor appts. This is a bit of a drag, and the reimbursements don't come fast enough. Soooo, you may wish to make things understood. YOU are in control. YOU call the shots. Something that I wish that I had known.

SPCT caters to their surros. They pick them up and drive them to appts.

Recently I miscarried at 11.5 weeks and I was so sad. So are the IP's. They want to try again, that is a great thing. Do not be afraid to ask for more compensation, it will be written into the contract if they feel it is fair and reasonable.

It is a great thing to do.

Good luck to you!