What arrangement is best for the baby ?Should the surrogate mother breastfeed the child for first few days ?
no... if the parents request.. i think the mother could pump breast milk for the baby... I've heard of this being written on their contract.. which is a great idea! But i don't think they should breast feed.. those first few days are so important for the parents.. and the surrogate mother should really step aside!
I would not think it would bother either way since the surrogate mother is the one who was pregnant for 9 months with the child. You would think pregnancy alone would bond you with a baby.Should the surrogate mother breastfeed the child for first few days ?
I guess it depends on the mom and the family taking the baby.. I don;t see any harm in it. The baby will get extra nutrients
The ideal situation would be for the surrogate mother to pump her breast milk as long as she is willing to, and give the pumped milk to the adoptive family to give to the baby in a bottle.
Since the child will be adopted it will be receiving a bottle either way, might as well try and make it a bottle of breast milk!
(and with pumping, you don't have to worry about bonding issues)
For the colostrum, I would try very hard to have that happen.
I think that should be up to the surrogate mother and the babies parents. If that is what the babies parents want, why not. The baby would get the benefits from breastfeeding, but some of the bonding with the mother would be lost.
i dont think she should. you should start lactating so you can do this. i dont feel that she should bod that way. it will be hard on her and the baby when its all said and done. contact a le leche league they will help you with lactating
no, definatly not. breastfeeding creates a very unique mother, child bond. if you want your baby to have breastmilk, kindly ask the surrogate mother to pump for a week or so. then you can bottle feed, and get that special bond for yourself
if there is a surrogate mother invloved and the mother of the baby wants the baby to be breast fed, than they can talk about the surrogate mother pumping, and than the baby being bottle fed but with the breast milk, that way there is no concern about if the baby will bond with the surrogate mother, and not the mother of the baby, but the child will still be recieving the breast milk... if you want the child to have breast milk there is nothing wrong with bottle feeding it to them, and it may actually help later on with self soothing that way they wouldn't have to worry about whether or not the baby will take a bottle or only want the nipple and other things like that.
The best is for the baby to have the colostrum, if the surrogate and the parents are OK with that arrangement.
Even better is if the surrogate can pump for a while, but if that isn't feasible, colostrum is extremely important. It's a gradual change, but a woman produces colostrum immediately after birth until her milk comes in between 2-5 days postpartum.
hmmmm....I would say at least for the colostrum - it would be hard to pump during that stage...seems very rough on the nursing woman. Maybe after that stage....she could pump and donate to the adoptive family, etc.... that's a tough one.... Ultimately needs to be up to the adoptive parents I think..... (That could be pretty rough for the surrogate mother to handle...emotionally and physically - however they surrogate mother must be a very strong person to do what she is doing...I could never do that.....I am not strong enough.... Kudos to her)
This is a hard question to ask and answer.
First off, i would get the surrogate mother involved as less as possible. If you want her to pump the milk and bottle feed that is fine. You can also have your DR get you ready to breast feed your baby there are ways to do this. If it fails bottle feed the baby I know you would like it to be natrual but the less shhe is involved the better. People have a funny way of backing out of things.
why not use pumped breastmilk
if the surrogate is willing
also there are ways to induce lactation
This consists of breast massage, nipple manipulation, and sucking -- either by a baby or a hospital grade electric breast pump. Some adopting mothers rent a breast pump in anticipation of the infant; other mothers simply put the adopted infant to breast.
Hormonal therapy to induce lactation generally consists of administration of estrogen to simulate the high-estrogen state of pregnancy. The estrogen is then abruptly withdrawn to mimic the rapid hormonal changes following delivery. A course of a prolactin-enhancing drug such as metaclopromide (Reglan.) is then instituted. Sucking stimulation (with a pump or by baby) is begun at this point.
Milk production typically begins between 1-4 weeks after initiating mechanical stimulation. One study of induced lactation using medications describes onset of milk production between 5-13 days. (2) This is similar to case reports of inductions using only nipple stimulation. At first, the mother may see only drops. During the time that milk production is building, women may notice changes in the color of the nipples and areolar tissue. Breasts may become tender and fuller. Some women report increased thirst, and changes in their menstrual cycle or libido.
No. I think you've already taken sufficient advantage of the mother (risking her life and all) to have a baby that is yours. Then you want add another pull on her already emotional state? This is not her baby and it's best to cut the ties at birth for both their sakes.
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