Has anyone used or considered a surrogate mother?

I am considering becoming a surrogate, and want to see all sides of the picture before I get into anything. What do you look for in a mother? How did you find her? How long did it take to find and choose her? How did you choose her? How long did the whole process take, from deciding you wanted to uses a surrogate to getting that BFP?

Also, any information at all from someone who has been or considered bieng a surrogate mother would help, thank you.Has anyone used or considered a surrogate mother?
Surrogacy does not mean that it is your child unless you are a traditional carrier. Many people have the mistaken judgement that any surrogate is giving up her own child/ren when that's typically not the care. IP's look for a woman who has had her own children without complications and at term. Who has a support system of her spouse/family/friends. Who totally understands the process and that it can be a very lengthy one. It can take a LONG time to find that perfect couple you wish to carry for. I know people who have been looking for over a year for the right surrogate. You can look through classifieds on these sites:



www.surromomsonline.com

www.everythingsurrogacy.com

www.allaboutsurrogacy.come

You can google TASC surrogacy (I forget the website)



The initial phase is the longest, both parents and the surrogate and her spouse if applicable have to go through psych testing, testing to make sure each is healthy enough to go through their end of the process. Lots of blood work. Once everyone is cleared to go ahead you can begin meds for the cycling. That's typically take 2months or more. You also have to consider it doesn't always work on the 1st try..it can take several cycles to achieve a pregnancy. You need to choose whether you want to go through an agency or independent. If you are willing to be a traditional carrier (yoru own egg) or gestational (donor or IM's egg) or maybe either one.

Anyway I could write a novel on all this, hopefully some of this helps, the websites I listed have a LOT of great info about the entire process too.
never!i had all girls and wanted a boy badly and i wouldnt give up a boy if i surrogate mothered it i would fight to keep it.besides child birth is way too painful for me to go thru for someone elseHas anyone used or considered a surrogate mother?
I would never be a surrogate mother. I couldn't do it. I wouldn't be able to give up the baby. You form a bond with your unborn child so how could you give them up? I feel sorry for those who cannot get pregnant but I could never do it.