Am I crazy for wanting to be a surrogate mother for my best friend?

My best friend has been through two miscarriages already and just recently found out that she is pregnant again. She is an O negative blood type and her husband is an AB positive. She told me that she was afraid this one was going to miscarry also. She can't stand the heartache again. I've been thinking since her last miscarriage that I would like to be a surrogate mother for her. Though I don't know how hard it would be to give up the baby, it's not like I wouldn't see it. We are best friends after all. So if this pregnancy doesn't work, I may talk to her about it. My husband supports me in whatever I want to do.Am I crazy for wanting to be a surrogate mother for my best friend?
I think it is great that you are willing to this for your friend. Not crazy at all.

I am sure it would be extremely difficult to give a baby up, though.

Maybe you could talk to your friend about having her eggs harvested and fertilized and then implanted. Then you wouldn't be giving up your baby, it would be completely theirs. You would just be the "carrier", so to speak.



Also, just wondering.. Has your friend had the Rhogam shot after her miscarriages? being that she is O negative, that could be contributing to the miscarriages in the first place. If not, have her talk to her Dr. ASAP!!



Good Luck with whatever you decide.
Your heart seems to be in the right spot. If you are the maternal type it might be hard to detach from the 9month attachment but if you go into it telling yourself that this is not your child you should be fine. I was going to do the same for my mom, but she and her intended are waiting. I already have three children and I do not want anymore for myself but I was willing to do this for her.Am I crazy for wanting to be a surrogate mother for my best friend?
I think it is an amazing thing you are considering. Usually the fertility specialists offer couseling and such prior to to make sure you are truly capable of going through to the end.
No, you are not crazy. Just very, very generous. I would be careful in bringing it up to her directly. Instead, I would be indirect about it. Like discuss a case in the news, or say someone on Yahoo! Answers said...Make it apparent that you would be willing to do it for someone close to you, like a good friend or family member. But then let her ask you. She may feel weird about you bringing it up or even might feel that you are "better" than she is because you could bring HER baby into the world. The article below is pretty good and the site has a bunch more information about how to be a successful surrogate.



You would need to decide if it would be her egg or not. If so, it may involve multiple babies. You would need to be very clear on who would make decisions about the babies or selective abortion or if you would be willing to carry six babies.



I think you are very sweet to consider doing this for your friend. But many people have multiple miscarriages before having successful pregnancies. Just encourage her, pray for her and take care of her. Cross the surrogacy bridge if it needs to be crossed. I hope she has a successful pregnancy and you don't have to worry about it. You seem like a great friend. She is lucky to have you!
i think it would be very sweet of you. what a good friend. :)
Your not crazy, you're a really good friend. I would only reccomend doing this though if you've already had you first child.
No, you're not crazy. You're a good friend. And you'll be the child's favorite aunt after it's born. That's an amazing sacrifice you're willing to make.
just don't sleep with her husband. God wants us to share eachother's heartaches and joys. If it's in your heart that that's the right thing to do, do it. It will glorify God because of your selfless act and bring joy to everyone who experiences this little bundle of joy. Sara couldn't have kids and Abraham had to have a baby with her maidservant. Even the bible has drama like this. God Bless!
Crazy?? Interesting euphemism. I would call it brave. Selfless. Caring. Courageous. Or how 'bout a TRUE FRIEND!

Wow! She is so fortunate to have a friend like you. AND, you are fortunate to have such a supportive husband. From what I've seen so far, it also appears you will have a galactic support group. I don't care what anyone says about you or your husband- you two are going straight to heaven! This child will have wonderful parents (and godparents?), all of your lives will be richly blessed, and God is SMILING!!



You have my support and my blessing!



Anthony
no it just means that u really do care about wat happens to ur friend.
i would would never give up my child so.. im lucky that i have sons and it is special in my life but your situation is real as mine. i would say it is a child's life at stake here and i would consider that person first. Knowing you are friends means a lot but when that babe is born. Everything changes and love is there. So, consider the situtaion. First of all the child, who would that child choose in his/her life? your friend or YOU
I would get counseling and a lot of professional advice on this because if you are not fully aware of the process and all that comes with it, you may have different feelings about letting go once you have felt the baby's first move, seen the first ultrasound, and so much more. The baby would be the one to be put in the middle of the situation, and emotions can change your mind. Once you have had counseling you will have a better idea. And prayers for this one she is caring now. Hope for the best with this one. Have faith.
absolutely not.
no it's fine. i think that it is actually a great thing to do. although you will still suffer from ppd. it will be hard but yes you should do it.
You are not crazy. You are a TRUE friend and someone who has WAY for will power than I do!



Do you have children of your own? I think that would be the hardest thing for me. Bearing a child and giving birth is such an experience.



But no and absolutely not, you are not crazy and I would love to have a friend as compassionate as yourself.



Good luck!
look....I don't have much experience when it comes to surrogate mothers and what not...but I know that if this woman is truly your best friend and you hold her dear to your heart, then do what your heart tells you. your husband is by your side through it, so go with what your heart tells you.



you have a gift of giving birth to a children. Right now, your best friend may not be able to go full term, and just see it as a way to spread your love and your gift to those who need and want it.



::MUAH:: good luck
No, great idea.
I think that its fine because u care for her.As long as you are helthy and strong enough to carry the baby ,its FINE!

AND make sure u dont have any diseases or sickness that may harm u and the new baby. All the best and good luck!
I don't think your crazy. But you really need to think about this before doing it. Think about how you'll feel after giving birth to that beautiful baby and someone taking it from you. sure you'll see the child, but will this change your friendship?? forever??